I can't quote them here as the girls didn't give me copies yet. I'll do that later. However, stepgfg did respond. She told the girls she understood how they felt and that she was sorry. She swears she doesn't want anything from them or us. Stepgfg says she understands that it will take time and effort to rebuild their relationships. She mentioned the "brain condition" and incinuated that it is terminal and she wants the kids to have not just her but their whole family. We still haven't gotten the actual name of this condition. Since Nichole pinned her down about her bio Mom and the fact she had ignored all previous inquiries about her, she stated that she does not have a relationship with bio Mom except I believe to let her visit with the kids on occasion. Stepgfg swears she has never used drugs, no have drugs ever been around any of the kids. And she swears she is a good mother. easy child called me from work after stepgfg responded. She said stepgfg was defensive. I told her it was understandable as Nichole had sent off a much harsher version of her own email to stepgfg. (easy child hadn't known about that) So getting 2 of those at once would make anyone feel defensive. If stepgfg maintains contact, easy child plans to ask her if we can come out for a visit. This sort of stunned me. But easy child said that everyone wants to see them, and it will settle once and for all whether or not she has custody. In easy child's eyes win/win. I reminded her that my Mom tried this back before stepgfg came to live with us when she was living in a homeless shelter. Stepgfg knew Mom and Travis were coming. (they were bringing presents for the Kayla) They skipped out of the shelter the day before. So we'll see. Not counting any chickens yet, and neither are the girls. That so called "brain condition" has me thinking hard and going over memories. Of course I don't know if it is true. Stepgfg could be making it up. But she displayed so many odd and out of character behaviors while she was with us that never made sense even if she was using drugs. At the time I was worried about serious mental illness because we had no real reason to think neurological. Her migraines had been blamed on a car accident. If it is real, I would like, actually need, to know what it is. We have Travis who keep deteriorating neurologically and no reason, other than the polycythemia has ever been found. Odd that she would be having the same issues. Hopefully later I can post her responses and you can help me decide if you think we're dealing with someone who is being sincere.