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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 762783" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>They are.not incapable of planning things if they care about something. They plan how to manipulate us with ease. Most of our adult kids are addicts with personality disorders in there a bit too. Adults with personality disorders, which many obviously have, don't care about anyone but them. And they won't follow societal rules. So while they may dismiss ways to wake up in time to get to work on time, they are very crafty about guilting Dad to bring them socks so they get a face to face audience for their "poor me and bad you" performance. They are almost all very similar and they are brilliant manipulators. It is part of their survival of living without responsibility. They work very hard to get Dad and Mom to feel guilty enough to keep contributing to their lazy and often drugged lifestyle. Think about how clever they are.</p><p></p><p>Some of them may have challenges, as many people do, but almost none of them seem to be challenged as far as manipulation and taking, taking, taking. They get straight A's in Guilting too. Yet they can't bother to set an alarm clock to get to work or hang onto a warm blanket you bought for him/her. Of course, they probably don't WANT to go to work so they don't try. And that nice blanket was sold for $50 which is drug money. But....then they look helpless and try to get sympathy.</p><p></p><p>"My alarm clock malfunctioned so I was late to work and was fired! Please come give me $20! It wasn't my fault!"</p><p></p><p>"Somebody beat me up and stole my blanket and money!! I am so scared! Can you please bring me money? You won't? You are an evil parent!"</p><p></p><p>And so the game goes. I get tired just remembering it. Remember that they lie as easily as breathe and that living with you doesn't keep them from trouble. Just makes us in danger too. He stole from you? His intentions for wanting to come home are bad. Don't do it. He can change his life. You can't change his life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 762783, member: 1550"] They are.not incapable of planning things if they care about something. They plan how to manipulate us with ease. Most of our adult kids are addicts with personality disorders in there a bit too. Adults with personality disorders, which many obviously have, don't care about anyone but them. And they won't follow societal rules. So while they may dismiss ways to wake up in time to get to work on time, they are very crafty about guilting Dad to bring them socks so they get a face to face audience for their "poor me and bad you" performance. They are almost all very similar and they are brilliant manipulators. It is part of their survival of living without responsibility. They work very hard to get Dad and Mom to feel guilty enough to keep contributing to their lazy and often drugged lifestyle. Think about how clever they are. Some of them may have challenges, as many people do, but almost none of them seem to be challenged as far as manipulation and taking, taking, taking. They get straight A's in Guilting too. Yet they can't bother to set an alarm clock to get to work or hang onto a warm blanket you bought for him/her. Of course, they probably don't WANT to go to work so they don't try. And that nice blanket was sold for $50 which is drug money. But....then they look helpless and try to get sympathy. "My alarm clock malfunctioned so I was late to work and was fired! Please come give me $20! It wasn't my fault!" "Somebody beat me up and stole my blanket and money!! I am so scared! Can you please bring me money? You won't? You are an evil parent!" And so the game goes. I get tired just remembering it. Remember that they lie as easily as breathe and that living with you doesn't keep them from trouble. Just makes us in danger too. He stole from you? His intentions for wanting to come home are bad. Don't do it. He can change his life. You can't change his life. [/QUOTE]
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