My daughter has been in a wicked mania since the middle of April. Lies and defensive behavior, weird lies that just cause more problems for her and her quick rapid talk and her being the one and only authority on politics. Today I asked her if she wanted to help her dad and me pass out masks to the community. She came and helped, mostly stood around but did help some. When my daughter is deeply manic she comes to my home and tries to fight, then defuses and cries. I get very tried of her using me to defuse and not learning how to defuse on her own. I told her that her lies wear me out completely and that she is doing more damage to her own mind by telling lies and it just frustrates me to the core. The main move ahead step that we took is that we have new words. When I feel lied to and insulted I will say to her 'do you need to back up' meaning you can change the lie right now and make it right or change your tone of voice to make things right. She agreed to this. I told her that when I say those words I do not want her to get defensive or mean, the reason we have these words in place is to keep harmony and to get back on track. We discused her boyfriend in detail. She said she knew he was rude and she said she knew it was not our fault. She said she knows the both of them have problems and want to seek counsel. Before anyone says 'how wonderful' just know we have been down this road with these words several times just to end up going round and round. My daughter told me I was 'icy' I told her that I am getting older and I am so very tired to the pure BS that she throws my way on a regular basis. Tonight I am so wore out and pray our talk made a difference. I told her that her and her boyfriend's off and on behavior is terribly hard to deal with. I told my daughter that I love her very much but being on the receiving end of her bipolar takes nerves of steel.