Not sure what is up with katie. I've mailed her multiple times. Her responses are brief at best, and pretty much all my questions are ignored. At least she did finally tell me the ultrasound for the lump in her breast did not show cancer and docs aren't planning any sort of further treatment. Mentioned the odd mails to Nichole. She's getting the same sort of responses. Hmm. Now at this shelter they have a "residents" phone and she can call whenever she wants. They also have a computer available to them, so she can chat or mail me whenever she wants. Yet I've heard from her less than I did in dayton, which wasn't much. I don't call her because I have no idea what the shelter may have them doing per finding work or a place to live. And I do know our shelter really pushes those two areas as they want the stay there to be as short as possible. Last mail I sent to her I asked about the dentist and the eyeglasses for both her and kayla. She told me she hasn't had the bad tooth pulled yet because the antibiotic triggers headaches so she skips taking it for long periods. wth?? Everything causes this girl headaches, take the darn thing anyway. geez! Dentist told her the told and gum infection is a huge part of her headaches. Dentist won't even touch her other teeth until the infection is gone and this really bad tooth is pulled. Glasses? She attempted to convince me she has to pay a 10.00 co pay on the exam and glasses. OMG! I told you she's as horrible at lying as her dad. She has medicaid. She has no income whatsoever. She does NOT have to pay deductibles either for herself or any child. And in my response to the mail I called her out on the lie. That sort of thing really peeves me off in a huge way. She knows I know the system for ohio.......yet she still attempts to get away with such a bold face lie?? gimme a break!:2dissapointed: She flat out ignored the inquiry about the HUD apartments, the invitation to drive her there to fill out the application, if the jobs they applied for had contacted them, and if they would like to come to dinner one night. (was going to make a sort of birthday meal for hers and Evan's birthday) No news on if she was able to get hardship. (my guess is she wasn't) No news on Alex's disability claim. (guessing that is dead in the water as the child has never seen a doctor for the diagnosis she's trying to get it with) Nothing. Not any of the normal news on how the kids are doing, even if it's just driving her crazy with all the snow days. Hmmmm. Not a clue what is up. But since I know our shelter pushes them to get out and be independent.......I'm guessing their being pushed. Shelter will not put up with excuses for long, they'll boot them out on their fannies. We had one cheerful mail and one cheerful phone call. But that was when she was expecting to get monthly funds from hardship and Alex's disability. She was stunned when Nichole asked her to be a bridesmaid. I mean really stunned and ask Nichole why on earth she would ask her. Nichole told her well you're my big sis, and I love you, why wouldn't I ask you? easy child is the other bridesmaid and Nance Nichole's bff is MOH. There is a factory not too far away that is always hiring.......and even have apartments they'll let their employees rent so they can live in the town where they work. I'd forgotten about that one. Mc D's is ALWAYS hiring and pays well. I can think of more than a dozen places just off the top of my head. And actually in this area, M's so called reading issues would not be a problem, it's very common around here, people take it in stride and don't think twice about it. Katie has yet to even apply at the temp place that would immediately place her into nursing homes as an aide and train her. I know that in the back of her mind Katie believed that county services would open up their arms and practically throw programs to help into their laps. It's not happening. One due to an overwhelmed system.....to say the very least. But also because katie abused every one of those programs the last time she was here......and lied to those who work/run them. This is a small town, and people have LONG memories. I know because both easy child and Nichole had to deal with the aftermath of katies lies and con years later when they needed many of the same services. Karma will always get you in the end. I'm sure the shelter has already had them fill out the apps for the local hud apartments. I'm guessing they've been denied due to M's felony. I do know the Turning Point program for the GED and job placement refuses to take him. (possibly for the same reason) Because even if they were on the waiting list for the apartments I'm sure Katie would've been excited enough to mention it. She hasn't said a word. And I'm pretty sure his felony is showing up because everytime Nichole's boyfriend does a background check on him it pops up. So no clue what is going on. Guessing that little glimmer that she might be taking a step in the right direction was just that, a glimmer, evidently it didn't last long. As for the abrupt mails........... I think she's ticked because we did nothing for her birthday. Or for Evan's birthday. Well phht. Most I do for my grown kids for a birthday is make their fav dinner. That is IF I can do it, time and money wise. Grandkids get 1 gift, and usually that's not over 20 bucks if that. And husband and I have been penniless for the past 5 wks. And yeah, I'll skip a grandchild's birthday if I don't have the cash. Too bad, this Nana is POOR. Happens. Once I knew husband and I had money again, I did attempt to do the dinner thing and got brushed off. So whatever. No biggie. I'm sure she's also not liking that we're calling her on the lies. Too bad. Don't lie. sheesh Oh well, if she doesn't get it together over the next couple of weeks it ought to get interesting.