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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 710574" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Maybe the hypochondria and hurt feelings is a manipulation.</p><p></p><p>Or it can be this. Adults, even 27 year olds, who live with mom and act like little kids when Mom cares for them and pays for them. They do not become adults. This is a reproduction of him when he was little and you kissed his sore finger.</p><p></p><p>It really bothers me that he will not bond with or care for his own son. Why did he take the boy away from his in laws if he wont even feed him? Why is he not forced, while living with you, to care for his son? If he can sit up and play X-Box he can hold a baby in his arms and feed him a bottle or change a diaper. He is 27. Do you him this helpless at 37? 47? Do you want his son to grow up thinking his father is unloving and useless? Maye copying him? Asking you why his Daddy never wants to see his baseball games?</p><p></p><p>Who gets up with his son at night if he cries? You. Has Son ever changed o e diaper? Are you young enough to parent this child forever? Can you take care of a baby and a 27 year old toddler too?</p><p></p><p>I know I sound tough but I just hope you dont see your son as a poor little boy. People with depression and anxiety work and more. They live in their own homes. They raise children. Those disorders are very treatable.</p><p></p><p>I am finding as I get older, my kids worry more about ME and are protective of ME. Thats how it usually is. It drives me nuts...but tbigs turn around. Normally.</p><p></p><p>Too much is at stake for you, son and grandson for son to continue living like a child in your house. My guess is he is a pretty bad drug addict and not caring of anyone but himself. If anyones adult child needs a kick yours does. He is barely existing.</p><p></p><p>Maybe you should move him to a group home for the metally ill. We have many around here. Trust me, nobody is allowed to lay around all day and play XBox.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry this is happening. I do feel you have hard choices to make. The older he is like this the harder it will be when he has no choice but to care for himself. Dont let him turn 30 and still this way in your home.</p><p></p><p>Try to fid peace tonight. I wish you strength and courage and clarity.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 710574, member: 1550"] Maybe the hypochondria and hurt feelings is a manipulation. Or it can be this. Adults, even 27 year olds, who live with mom and act like little kids when Mom cares for them and pays for them. They do not become adults. This is a reproduction of him when he was little and you kissed his sore finger. It really bothers me that he will not bond with or care for his own son. Why did he take the boy away from his in laws if he wont even feed him? Why is he not forced, while living with you, to care for his son? If he can sit up and play X-Box he can hold a baby in his arms and feed him a bottle or change a diaper. He is 27. Do you him this helpless at 37? 47? Do you want his son to grow up thinking his father is unloving and useless? Maye copying him? Asking you why his Daddy never wants to see his baseball games? Who gets up with his son at night if he cries? You. Has Son ever changed o e diaper? Are you young enough to parent this child forever? Can you take care of a baby and a 27 year old toddler too? I know I sound tough but I just hope you dont see your son as a poor little boy. People with depression and anxiety work and more. They live in their own homes. They raise children. Those disorders are very treatable. I am finding as I get older, my kids worry more about ME and are protective of ME. Thats how it usually is. It drives me nuts...but tbigs turn around. Normally. Too much is at stake for you, son and grandson for son to continue living like a child in your house. My guess is he is a pretty bad drug addict and not caring of anyone but himself. If anyones adult child needs a kick yours does. He is barely existing. Maybe you should move him to a group home for the metally ill. We have many around here. Trust me, nobody is allowed to lay around all day and play XBox. I am sorry this is happening. I do feel you have hard choices to make. The older he is like this the harder it will be when he has no choice but to care for himself. Dont let him turn 30 and still this way in your home. Try to fid peace tonight. I wish you strength and courage and clarity. [/QUOTE]
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