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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 710624" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>I have two distant relatives (young men) and for some reason, they crossed my mind.</p><p>They do not have mental health issues (as far as I know...perhaps some minimal things) but they do have other rather significant other issues that are hampering.</p><p></p><p>One has extreme ADD, can be socially awkward and had some difficulties in school academically.</p><p>His parents encouraged him to work hard and interestingly, using the school's Special Education department, he was able to get a Master's Degree. After college, he worked a very simple job for a good five years, but then got a job in his field. It was most impressive.</p><p>The other young man, has bad case of dyslexia and I suspect suffers from mild depression.</p><p>I don't think he ever finished his BA degree, but seems to take a class here and there.</p><p>I don't want to say where he works, but he works for a large company and started in one area, but worked his way to the sales department</p><p>He works 6-7 days a week and has done extremely well.</p><p></p><p>I mention this because both of these young men seem to have rather significant burdens and both ended up doing very well. They are not married and maybe in some ways this helps. But, they have many good friends and very good jobs that they like.</p><p></p><p>Mental illness, especially the things we often talk about here is a lot trickier (like Bipolar, etc.) but, I see when it comes to work, it is possible even under difficult circumstances.</p><p></p><p>I know our son was always perfectly behaved had an extraordinarily difficult senior year in high school. I would joke that aliens came and possessed his brain. To this day, I'm not exactly sure what happened. One day, he got a part time job. OMG! It made ALL the difference in the world for him. He enjoyed the feeling of accomplishment and saving his money. He started going to the local college and cut his hours back. That part was a little tricky because it was hard for him to juggle both. He would win "employee of the month" multiple times a year. Honestly, it changed his world. It took five years, but he got his BA Degree. Today, he is a very successful employee in a professional career and interestingly, continues to win awards at work. For him...it all started with a part time job.</p><p></p><p>A friend of mine has a Difficult Child. She had to start very slowly. She had him do volunteer work 10 hours a week. She paid him $5 an hour for this work. I think this went on for many months.I guess she is doing well financially to pull this off. But, she felt it would lead to bigger and better things down the road (and it did!)</p><p></p><p>Then they used this experience to put on a resume. He started to enjoy making money and wanted to make more...so he was perhaps for the first time, truly motivated to work.</p><p></p><p>He got a job at a local grocery store working 20-30 hours a week and is doing very well. (He no longer does the volunteer work). It is very debatable if he could work 40 hours a week. They help him out a little with housing, etc. </p><p></p><p>Maybe if your son found a job he likes, even a PT one, he would be happier and s tronger...more able to give up his games.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 710624, member: 4152"] I have two distant relatives (young men) and for some reason, they crossed my mind. They do not have mental health issues (as far as I know...perhaps some minimal things) but they do have other rather significant other issues that are hampering. One has extreme ADD, can be socially awkward and had some difficulties in school academically. His parents encouraged him to work hard and interestingly, using the school's Special Education department, he was able to get a Master's Degree. After college, he worked a very simple job for a good five years, but then got a job in his field. It was most impressive. The other young man, has bad case of dyslexia and I suspect suffers from mild depression. I don't think he ever finished his BA degree, but seems to take a class here and there. I don't want to say where he works, but he works for a large company and started in one area, but worked his way to the sales department He works 6-7 days a week and has done extremely well. I mention this because both of these young men seem to have rather significant burdens and both ended up doing very well. They are not married and maybe in some ways this helps. But, they have many good friends and very good jobs that they like. Mental illness, especially the things we often talk about here is a lot trickier (like Bipolar, etc.) but, I see when it comes to work, it is possible even under difficult circumstances. I know our son was always perfectly behaved had an extraordinarily difficult senior year in high school. I would joke that aliens came and possessed his brain. To this day, I'm not exactly sure what happened. One day, he got a part time job. OMG! It made ALL the difference in the world for him. He enjoyed the feeling of accomplishment and saving his money. He started going to the local college and cut his hours back. That part was a little tricky because it was hard for him to juggle both. He would win "employee of the month" multiple times a year. Honestly, it changed his world. It took five years, but he got his BA Degree. Today, he is a very successful employee in a professional career and interestingly, continues to win awards at work. For him...it all started with a part time job. A friend of mine has a Difficult Child. She had to start very slowly. She had him do volunteer work 10 hours a week. She paid him $5 an hour for this work. I think this went on for many months.I guess she is doing well financially to pull this off. But, she felt it would lead to bigger and better things down the road (and it did!) Then they used this experience to put on a resume. He started to enjoy making money and wanted to make more...so he was perhaps for the first time, truly motivated to work. He got a job at a local grocery store working 20-30 hours a week and is doing very well. (He no longer does the volunteer work). It is very debatable if he could work 40 hours a week. They help him out a little with housing, etc. Maybe if your son found a job he likes, even a PT one, he would be happier and s tronger...more able to give up his games. [/QUOTE]
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