the sudden passing of a loved one

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by Lothlorien, Jun 17, 2012.

  1. Lothlorien

    Lothlorien Active Member Staff Member

    We've had four deaths in four years. Today, Aunt C was supposed to meet us for brunch this afternoon. She never showed up. We had dinner with her on Tuesday and she told us she would be there today. She was supposed to go out to dinner with friends last night at 5. She apparently never showed. They spoke to her at 3.

    We drove to her house and entered, calling her name. I found her on the floor by her kitchen table. It was awful.

    My kids and I have gotten so close to her over the last 2 years. We were the only family she had, so we made her welcome at everything. She took care of the kids when I had to work. She'd take them to Friendly's and then get frozen yogurt afteward. She loved my kids and they loved her. The kids are really sad.

    I have never been on this end of death...having to make arrangements, go through her things, make phone calls. I called her one friend who simply fell apart on the phone. I felt so bad.

    husband feels guilty for not going over there to clean her gutters yesterday, but I told him that there is no way that he could have prevented this. From all appearances, she probably had a massive heart attack. He would have left there in the early afternoon and this would have happened anyway.

    She has a cat who I need to find a home for too. We can't take him.....Missy's allergies are horrible with cats.
  2. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    Oh, honey!!!!! I can't imagine. How are YOU holding up?

    :hugs: I wish I had something wise and helpful to say... But... I don't, just I'm here...
  3. Tiapet

    Tiapet Old Hand

    I'm sorry Loth. My condolences. I am not good with death. I will keep you in my thoughts.
  4. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    I'm so sorry. (((Hugs)))
  5. cubsgirl

    cubsgirl Well-Known Member

    I'm sorry...((hugs))
  6. keista

    keista New Member

    ((((HUGS)))) So sorry for your loss.
  7. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I am so sorry for your loss. Did she have a will or funeral plans made? That is the first order of business. Hugs!
  8. Lothlorien

    Lothlorien Active Member Staff Member

    Will was set up. No funeral plans...we will deal with that tomorrow. Very small. Not much family or many friends. I'm doing okay....just really sad. She's been a major part of our lives for the past few years.
  9. 1905

    1905 Well-Known Member

    I am so sorry! (((HUGS)))
  10. Liahona

    Liahona Guest

    I'm so sorry. I hope you and the kids can find peace.
  11. donna723

    donna723 Well-Known Member

    I'm so sorry ...
  12. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    Oh, Loth...


    I'm so sorry.
  13. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful


    I'm so very sorry Loth. You and your family will be in my prayers.
  14. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    I'm so sorry, Loth.
  15. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    Please accept my condolences. I have been spared much contact but always I feel that it is a blessing when someone passes with-o the trauma of prolonged discomfort or institutional living. Hugs. DDD
  16. trinityroyal

    trinityroyal Well-Known Member

    I'm so very sorry for your loss Loth.
  17. SearchingForRainbows

    SearchingForRainbows Active Member

    I'm so sorry... Hugs... SFR
  18. buddy

    buddy New Member

    Very sad. I am just so sorry. She sounds like a beautiful person who will be missed. Thinking of you as you say goodbye.
  19. Lothlorien

    Lothlorien Active Member Staff Member

    Thank you all. I believe we found a home for the cat. That's a relief. Services are tomorrow. Funeral Wednesday.
  20. DaisyFace

    DaisyFace Love me...Love me not

    Oh, how very sad!

    I'm so sorry for your loss...