I found a suicide letter on my computer this morning. He said some very hateful, mean things to me in it. I was tempted to throw his ass out the door then but husband talked me out of it. . Oh, he didn't kill himself by the way, and I changed the password on the computer so he can't use it anymore. The **** has been hitting the fan since we've laid down some tough rules for my son, or as my son refers to it as "this tough love bs". He's 24btw.. yes, he should've been out on his own by now, but husband gave him 1 month to find a place. So yesterday the drama king had a hissy fit and was leaving. He made a big thing about throwing his stuff in his friends old car that's in our driveway.. revving the engine, slamming the trunk, it's a car that has no plates and no insurance that the drama king is going to fix up one day. yep.. husband and I didn't stop him. We told him that was his choice and that it wasn't a wise one but it was his to make, and then we moved our car so he could pull out of the driveway. He didn't leave. so, since that failed to get the desired response from us, he now decides he's going to commit suicide.. and I will be sorry because I will be the one to find his body. We ignore that and watch tv. Then he tells us how heartless we are to be laughing at a tv show when he's 'killing himself' and runs downstairs where he stays for an hour while husband and I are upstairs wondering if he'll really do it, but we don't check on him and just continue to watch tv. So, then he comes upstairs and starts taking food out of the cabinets informing us that he needs food because he's going to be homeless and plans on living under the train tracks. So I tell him that's his choice, and not a good one but I offer him the tuna and our can opener. . And again, since that fails to get the response he's looking for, he decides he's really, really, really going to kill himself, and we can just sit there and do nothing because we obviously don't love him or care about him, and how I'm not allowed to go to his funeral but our dog is. We ignore him. Then he writes me a suicide note and leaves it on my computer. Very nasty. I really believe he hates me. What I don't understand is why all his failures are MY fault. Not his dads, just mine. Now, I could understand that if he had a hard life, or if I beat him or starved him, or locked him in a freakin' closet growing up, but I didn't.. I probably should have.. But anyway, I have questions. Is our response to his threats and actions going to accomplish anything? Will he ever get the hint that he's not going to manipulate us with his tactics? I know from reading this board that some kids are drama queens and kings.. don't they realize how idiotic they sound? I don't really expect an answer to that. It's just mind boggling the things he comes out with..like, "I'm jealous of his friends'.. huh? When they blame the mom.. what's behind that thinking? Do they really believe that their bad choices are because of the mom? My husband said his fantasy is that mr. drama king will come up to him in a few years and say 'you know Dad.. I'm really sorry for how I treated you and mom back then'.. I Just laughed, but then I wondered if that ever does happen. Has anyone had a child that they've thrown out or asked to leave the home and they've turned into happy, responsible human beings? thanks.. and I need a valium desperately.