The tantrums and other behaviors begin

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by BusynMember, Dec 1, 2019.

  1. BusynMember

    BusynMember Well-Known Member

    So Jaden is with Amy now. In a perfect world everyone lives happily ever after and Jaden is cured by love. And we all love him

    The imperfect world is different.

    Legally, Jaden is just residing with Amy and Kay and Lee can take him at any time. I can not explain the legal world right now but just know he is residing with Amy because Kay and Lee are allowing it and that for now this can change. So he can't be vaccinated without their consent or they will take him back and therefore he can not go to school yet. Although he is old enough to receive early services for young kids at school, he can't go without proof of vaccination.

    Vaccination is in his future if Amy gets legal guardianship. Right now this is being worked on. So he is going to need to get help by hired professionals instead of in school.

    Jaden shows many signs of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and maybe even Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS). Amy has permission to take him for an evaluation. Frankly, part of why Kay let Amy take him for now is that he is very difficult. He rages, screams, does not listen and does not sleep well. He potties in his pants and has taken poop and decorated the walls with it. He can barely speak but he does understand what he is told and follows directions when he wants to. He has intelligent eyes and nods yes or no and takes your hand to show you where he wants you to go.

    When Jaden is not unhappy, he loves to play with toy cars. He can do this for a long time and likes to line them up by color. He likes and is good at puzzles. He loves to "dance," to music. Kay used to do this too. He likes baths and splashing in the water, but won't shower. Yes, we learned all this in a few days.

    Sometimes he says "Da" or "Ma" and looks puzzled. Poor little guy. So far they did not schedule a visit.Amy has tried.

    Kay drank while pregnant at least until she knew she was pregnant, maybe three months in. She smoked pot the entire time. She thought pot was good for the developing fetus.

    So Jaden is here and Amy has her hands full. We are grateful that she has some knowledge of children with special needs. The babysitter was given a schedule to keep him on. I hope she can handle him.

    Anyhow, that's an update.

    Blessings to all.
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  2. Triedntrue

    Triedntrue Well-Known Member

    Although it is upsetting that these behaviors have presented the good thing is he is getting help. I know that the earlier the interventions the better the chance of success. It sounds as though Amy is on top of things. I am glad she is seeking professional help as well. I will continue to pray for Jayden and Amy.
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  3. ksm

    ksm Well-Known Member

    Are you in an area that has HeadStart or Early HeadStart? Early HeadStart sends professionals in to the home on a regular basis. Vaccinations should not matter at this point.

    I know it's too bad that you can't do vaccinations yet. I'm sure the parents will blame all future problems on that, instead of what has happened so far. Ksm
  4. BusynMember

    BusynMember Well-Known Member

    Ksm, no place will take Jaden without shots. Although we could secretly get them, I am not sure it is legal. Kay wrote out her own guardianship form that specifically says no vaccines. We want to take no chances that she may find out and take him back. CPS won't get involved (big sore spot) and we have not yet gone to court. Amy is closely in touch with the family law attorney.

    For now we hired an ABA specialist, speech therapist and physical therapist to come to the house. This will cost Amy a lot but she won't take money from us. Fortunately her job is lucrative. She wants to treat Jaden as her own child. Her long term goal is legal guardianship. so far her kids are accepting and helpful. Bless them.

    This situation has me both relieved and very nervous.

    Kay and Lee will be taking their old old camper out to California soon and are eager to live in it. Go figure.
  5. WiseChoices

    WiseChoices Active Member

    Depending on the State you live in, you can get an exemption from vaccination form from the local health department. Most States have a medical and a religious exemption. Schools have to accept the student who presents an exemption card. You can look up the exemption statutes for your State on line. Medical exemptions are hard to get. But religious ones are easy. You just need a letter stating that vaccines are against your personal religious tenets. With that, at least J could start school.

    How old is J with these behaviors?
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  6. BusynMember

    BusynMember Well-Known Member

    Amy is looking into it. I think it's pretty strict here with religious exemptions. I also know that Amy won't lie to get Jaden in. And we have no religious reasons not to vaccinate.

    Jaden is four.
  7. Blindsided

    Blindsided Face the Sun

    Well, I see it this way, Busy. Your relationship with Kay won't change when they go to California, so maybe this is a good thing for your grandson. He is going to need time and real love from people who put his needs first. He doesnt know how to relate, because he has never had it. His best chances are with Amy. I am praying.