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The Ten Hardest Drugs to Kick...a reality check
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 646093" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I did read the comments. Fascinating, no? </p><p></p><p>I posted it because I feel too many parents, myself included, believed the old sad eyed, trembling lip, "I quit! I swear I quit!" And then $50 would go missing. Or the cops would come because '"stuff" had been found on her. </p><p></p><p>My daughter's motto to those who have children who substance abuse is: "Never trust a drug addict. Ever. They lie."</p><p></p><p>My daughter is NOT a natural liar. She does not normally lie. But that's all she did during her drug days. And she did it with tears running down her cheeks as she accused us of not trusting her, which filled me with guilt. </p><p></p><p>I believe you deal best in life as a realist. At least, as painful as it often is, at least you can decide what YOU are going to do with YOUR life if you face the truth rather than live on hope or delude yourself. </p><p></p><p>"It can always get better."</p><p></p><p>Yes, it can. It did for me. When it does, you can change your behavior toward your loved one again. But you have to have proof that he/she has changed. Can't tell you how many times I heard "I quit!" and we believed it and, therefore, trusted her in situations that we regretted, such as letting her babysit for our younger kids (yes, we did that), drive (yes, we did before her accident) or leaving her at home alone overnight while we went on vacation (coming home to her drug party was our final straw). We dodged a bullet there. The neighbors could have called the police and since the drug use was going on in OUR house, maybe we would have been held partly responsible.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 646093, member: 1550"] I did read the comments. Fascinating, no? I posted it because I feel too many parents, myself included, believed the old sad eyed, trembling lip, "I quit! I swear I quit!" And then $50 would go missing. Or the cops would come because '"stuff" had been found on her. My daughter's motto to those who have children who substance abuse is: "Never trust a drug addict. Ever. They lie." My daughter is NOT a natural liar. She does not normally lie. But that's all she did during her drug days. And she did it with tears running down her cheeks as she accused us of not trusting her, which filled me with guilt. I believe you deal best in life as a realist. At least, as painful as it often is, at least you can decide what YOU are going to do with YOUR life if you face the truth rather than live on hope or delude yourself. "It can always get better." Yes, it can. It did for me. When it does, you can change your behavior toward your loved one again. But you have to have proof that he/she has changed. Can't tell you how many times I heard "I quit!" and we believed it and, therefore, trusted her in situations that we regretted, such as letting her babysit for our younger kids (yes, we did that), drive (yes, we did before her accident) or leaving her at home alone overnight while we went on vacation (coming home to her drug party was our final straw). We dodged a bullet there. The neighbors could have called the police and since the drug use was going on in OUR house, maybe we would have been held partly responsible. [/QUOTE]
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