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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 688160" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>This one is too sad for me to post about too much. But this is what I think I know about keeping their things for them. It is true that their things get lost or broken. When we see what it is we have been storing, or what's been left in their rooms or storage buildings, we wonder at how valueless it seems. Like one of us posted: One sock. </p><p></p><p>Stuff like that. Most of it dirty or old or broken. Tossing it feels like we are reclaiming order in our own lives. What we are really doing when we go through and try to figure out what to save and what to toss is grieving. And it is very sad, and hard to do. </p><p></p><p>How could this be the memorabilia of a life? </p><p></p><p>But when the kids do come home, and when they go through their things that we did save, that we did that for them matters. Invariably, there will be something that I didn't know to save. But still, it matters that someone cared enough about them to cherish their things for them when they could not.</p><p></p><p>To make that effort.</p><p></p><p>It matters that someone loved them enough to do that.</p><p></p><p>I am not saying we need to keep one sock. Or mostly, the broken things. But I do keep things for them that might have some emotional value. As one of us posted, stackable plastic bins do not take so much room. Over time, I might go through the bins and thin them out. Clothing that is ratty or torn, I do not save. At first, I do. After a year or two, I don't save any of the clothing. Or the furniture. Or the broken things, unless I know that item has been chosen, has been saved, each time they needed somewhere safe to keep their things.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I agree. The connection is to us, but it is to themselves, and to the hope they had for themselves and their lives when they acquired these things, too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 688160, member: 17461"] This one is too sad for me to post about too much. But this is what I think I know about keeping their things for them. It is true that their things get lost or broken. When we see what it is we have been storing, or what's been left in their rooms or storage buildings, we wonder at how valueless it seems. Like one of us posted: One sock. Stuff like that. Most of it dirty or old or broken. Tossing it feels like we are reclaiming order in our own lives. What we are really doing when we go through and try to figure out what to save and what to toss is grieving. And it is very sad, and hard to do. How could this be the memorabilia of a life? But when the kids do come home, and when they go through their things that we did save, that we did that for them matters. Invariably, there will be something that I didn't know to save. But still, it matters that someone cared enough about them to cherish their things for them when they could not. To make that effort. It matters that someone loved them enough to do that. I am not saying we need to keep one sock. Or mostly, the broken things. But I do keep things for them that might have some emotional value. As one of us posted, stackable plastic bins do not take so much room. Over time, I might go through the bins and thin them out. Clothing that is ratty or torn, I do not save. At first, I do. After a year or two, I don't save any of the clothing. Or the furniture. Or the broken things, unless I know that item has been chosen, has been saved, each time they needed somewhere safe to keep their things. Cedar Yes. I agree. The connection is to us, but it is to themselves, and to the hope they had for themselves and their lives when they acquired these things, too. [/QUOTE]
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