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The week of difficult child's birthday---in middle of it
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 631640" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>COM, you began your post condemning yourself for your "angst". </p><p></p><p>Honey, how could you feel any differently than you do? Birthdays are markers. Where you are now is nowhere you (or anybody else) ever wanted to be.</p><p></p><p>But here is the other thing I see in your post.</p><p></p><p>A bona fide miracle.</p><p></p><p>They happen every day, all around us.</p><p></p><p>You acted out of generosity and goodwill COM...and were rewarded in kind. You know now, that your son is not alone. You know he is behaving with integrity and even, with courage.</p><p></p><p>You know he loves you.</p><p></p><p>Cherish the miracle of that, COM.</p><p></p><p>What would you have given, a few short weeks ago, to know these things about yourself and your son?</p><p></p><p>How does that quote I am always quoting go?</p><p></p><p>"For this relief, much thanks.</p><p></p><p>'Tis bitter cold,</p><p>And I am sick at heart."</p><p></p><p>Shakespeare, but I don't remember which play.</p><p></p><p>COM? I think your son is going to come through all this just fine. As it is with both my children, nothing about any of this looks the way it is "supposed" to.</p><p></p><p>But haven't we been talking, here on the site, about the strength and courage it takes just to be real?</p><p></p><p>I sometimes wonder how it is that kids with bright, committed parents, kids who were wanted and nurtured and cherished all of their lives are choosing to walk the paths they are undeniably on.</p><p></p><p>So many of our kids, here on the site, seem to be decent, intelligent, highly ethical people looking at the world and their place in it from the strangest perspectives.</p><p></p><p>For the most part, our kids don't fit the profile. They have people. They have places to go, access to education...they just don't want what we have.</p><p></p><p>Not if they have to work for it, themselves they don't.</p><p></p><p>So...what's really going on, here?</p><p></p><p>Could be that I am slipping into a new kind of denial, here. But..none of our kids operate from a position of angst....</p><p></p><p>I think what I am muddling my way toward here is detached acceptance. Let all the little stuff go, protect your cheese. (Remember that business book, Who Took My Cheese?)</p><p></p><p>And enjoy the day.</p><p></p><p>By choice if you have to, COM. Grit your teeth, gird your loins (unlike that floozy Echo, whipping off her underwear to go play tennis every </p><p>time something goes wrong)</p><p></p><p>:0)</p><p></p><p>..and seize the day.</p><p></p><p>None of us knows what our situations will be, next year at this time.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 631640, member: 17461"] COM, you began your post condemning yourself for your "angst". Honey, how could you feel any differently than you do? Birthdays are markers. Where you are now is nowhere you (or anybody else) ever wanted to be. But here is the other thing I see in your post. A bona fide miracle. They happen every day, all around us. You acted out of generosity and goodwill COM...and were rewarded in kind. You know now, that your son is not alone. You know he is behaving with integrity and even, with courage. You know he loves you. Cherish the miracle of that, COM. What would you have given, a few short weeks ago, to know these things about yourself and your son? How does that quote I am always quoting go? "For this relief, much thanks. 'Tis bitter cold, And I am sick at heart." Shakespeare, but I don't remember which play. COM? I think your son is going to come through all this just fine. As it is with both my children, nothing about any of this looks the way it is "supposed" to. But haven't we been talking, here on the site, about the strength and courage it takes just to be real? I sometimes wonder how it is that kids with bright, committed parents, kids who were wanted and nurtured and cherished all of their lives are choosing to walk the paths they are undeniably on. So many of our kids, here on the site, seem to be decent, intelligent, highly ethical people looking at the world and their place in it from the strangest perspectives. For the most part, our kids don't fit the profile. They have people. They have places to go, access to education...they just don't want what we have. Not if they have to work for it, themselves they don't. So...what's really going on, here? Could be that I am slipping into a new kind of denial, here. But..none of our kids operate from a position of angst.... I think what I am muddling my way toward here is detached acceptance. Let all the little stuff go, protect your cheese. (Remember that business book, Who Took My Cheese?) And enjoy the day. By choice if you have to, COM. Grit your teeth, gird your loins (unlike that floozy Echo, whipping off her underwear to go play tennis every time something goes wrong) :0) ..and seize the day. None of us knows what our situations will be, next year at this time. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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