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<blockquote data-quote="Martie" data-source="post: 12338" data-attributes="member: 284"><p>Even though you have made a decision, you will probably re-visit the pros and cons, so I'll add my .02.</p><p></p><p>I disagree with those who say exhaust EVERY community resource because during that time, especially in large high schools, bad things become habitual. I also agree with everyone whose points out you are fortunate to be able to consider this option.</p><p></p><p>My ex-difficult child went to an unlocked EGBS at 14. In his peer group, younger kids had better outcomes than older kids who were 17 at entry. You effectively have about 2 years to do something like this and then it will be beyond your control to choose his Tx.</p><p></p><p>In regard to picking schools: it is possible to get a good education and A LOT of therapy in an EGBS that is geared to a population that is academic and will participate in therapy. You have to be cleared headed about your child. I placed our artsy, bright, non-athletic ex-difficult child in an EGBS that was college prep AND therapeutic, had no team sports program--and also tolerated no violence. Most of the students were depressed, most were on medications and the consulting psychiatrist was the best psychiatrist ex-difficult child ever had. As far as abuse, I was really confident there was very low risk because parents could drop in any time without an appointment. Lack of access to your child is a very big red flag.</p><p></p><p>Ex-difficult child is also adopted and I was worried about him feeling rejected. It did not work out that way at all because there were three other adoptees in his peer group and the double identity formation of adopted adolescents was worked into therapy naturally. His EGBS also had a very strong family therapy component. Their aftercare was weak, but fortunately, we did not need their help afterwards. </p><p></p><p>Although ex-difficult child is the most "mainstream" successful kid in his peer group, others are doing well, too. Of the 6 Goths he was hanging out with at home at 14, only 2 graduated from h.s. This is in a h.s. with a 98% graduation rate--so keeping a child at home doesn't always work either.</p><p></p><p>Avoiding substance abuse is a big issue. At home or at EGBS, the kids with significant drug habits had the poorest outcomes.</p><p></p><p>I missed ex-difficult child every day he was gone but it it was the single best decision I ever made as a parent.</p><p></p><p>Best to you.</p><p></p><p>Martie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Martie, post: 12338, member: 284"] Even though you have made a decision, you will probably re-visit the pros and cons, so I'll add my .02. I disagree with those who say exhaust EVERY community resource because during that time, especially in large high schools, bad things become habitual. I also agree with everyone whose points out you are fortunate to be able to consider this option. My ex-difficult child went to an unlocked EGBS at 14. In his peer group, younger kids had better outcomes than older kids who were 17 at entry. You effectively have about 2 years to do something like this and then it will be beyond your control to choose his Tx. In regard to picking schools: it is possible to get a good education and A LOT of therapy in an EGBS that is geared to a population that is academic and will participate in therapy. You have to be cleared headed about your child. I placed our artsy, bright, non-athletic ex-difficult child in an EGBS that was college prep AND therapeutic, had no team sports program--and also tolerated no violence. Most of the students were depressed, most were on medications and the consulting psychiatrist was the best psychiatrist ex-difficult child ever had. As far as abuse, I was really confident there was very low risk because parents could drop in any time without an appointment. Lack of access to your child is a very big red flag. Ex-difficult child is also adopted and I was worried about him feeling rejected. It did not work out that way at all because there were three other adoptees in his peer group and the double identity formation of adopted adolescents was worked into therapy naturally. His EGBS also had a very strong family therapy component. Their aftercare was weak, but fortunately, we did not need their help afterwards. Although ex-difficult child is the most "mainstream" successful kid in his peer group, others are doing well, too. Of the 6 Goths he was hanging out with at home at 14, only 2 graduated from h.s. This is in a h.s. with a 98% graduation rate--so keeping a child at home doesn't always work either. Avoiding substance abuse is a big issue. At home or at EGBS, the kids with significant drug habits had the poorest outcomes. I missed ex-difficult child every day he was gone but it it was the single best decision I ever made as a parent. Best to you. Martie [/QUOTE]
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