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<blockquote data-quote="cfa3" data-source="post: 493899" data-attributes="member: 6817"><p>Thank you so much. It has been hard for me to dissect but his biggest issue in school is definitely his reaction to peers. I think he may have an attachment disoder because he needs SO much from his peers - if a peer doesnt love and adore him and care about him he flips out! If a peer doesnt want to play with him one day he becomes very angry and says that person hates me. It would never occur to him that, like himself, other kids like to play with many people, not just one. It never occurs to him how the other person may be feeling or thinking. Another example is if he is crying and the peer doesnt say whats wrong are you ok, he flips out and becomes very angry at the child for not caring. Its just endless all day. I called it irrational and misperceiving all day. If a student doesnt respond to him exactly how he needs he becomes angry and it affects his whole day. He thinks kids hate him, are ignoring him, are never going to play with him again, etc over any tiny little thing that doesnt not results in the other child just adoring my son and wanting to be glued to him all day. It unreal! And its getting worse over the years. If I had to invent a new diagnosis I would call this "disorder of perception". Maybe it is the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), the only thing is that my son doesnt fit alot of the autism diagnosis, only a few things, hence Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) not otherwise specified. He HATES being alone, he is extremely friendly and social, he loves playing with kids, he is not withdraw,he shares and compromises really well, but then there is this whole other piece. The other night we were outside with a group of people including some kids watching fireworks and he was mingling nicely, hanging out with the kids, all girls. One of the kids counsins came over and so some attention shifted to the newcomers, and a little clique type action started. Well my son instantly becomes furious AND crying at the same time, saying "well now they all hate me!" I mean it is so irrational it scares me! He wouldnt consider for a moment that what was happening wasjust normal of the other kids joining the group and all he needed to do was be friendly say hi to them. His night was ruined. Thats a perfect example of the problems at school. At starbucks when he is with me, if i stop and chit chat with the barista too long he starts to cry and says I must hate him now because I needed someone else to talk to. I am very worried, can this possibly be just autism when he doesnt really fit the autism diagnosis? he has reciprocal play, he doesnt view people as objects etc. Ugh so confused. So this is the main school issue! Social stories dont help, my son like yeah duh i know all that.</p><p></p><p>I am in the proces of requesting an independent ed evaluation which i think will help all of us and an FBA. The thing is he has a really good IEP, I worked so hard on it, he has like 3 pages of accomodations, everything from breaks, snacks, no time out, fidgeting allowed, on and on and on. I think he needs a one on one for the above issues ! someone to be there and help him through those misperceptions because they are leading to him hitting and kicking the "offending" peers...he is very high anxiety and just spends all day worrying about everthing but especially about peers/friends. He is obssessed with other people and has no self esteem.</p><p></p><p>Thank you for your help, this is confusing. He has been in every type of class and none fit him - in the autism classes he doesnt fit in well because he is so detaile orientated that he cannot handle when a child is rocking or shrieking or wont look at him or answer him when he talks. In the behavior rooms, well, that is the worst with all the charts and points, thats a no way. Maybe reg ed with an aide? I dont know. Seems if he had an aide in a high functioning or aspergers setting that may work for him. Thank you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="cfa3, post: 493899, member: 6817"] Thank you so much. It has been hard for me to dissect but his biggest issue in school is definitely his reaction to peers. I think he may have an attachment disoder because he needs SO much from his peers - if a peer doesnt love and adore him and care about him he flips out! If a peer doesnt want to play with him one day he becomes very angry and says that person hates me. It would never occur to him that, like himself, other kids like to play with many people, not just one. It never occurs to him how the other person may be feeling or thinking. Another example is if he is crying and the peer doesnt say whats wrong are you ok, he flips out and becomes very angry at the child for not caring. Its just endless all day. I called it irrational and misperceiving all day. If a student doesnt respond to him exactly how he needs he becomes angry and it affects his whole day. He thinks kids hate him, are ignoring him, are never going to play with him again, etc over any tiny little thing that doesnt not results in the other child just adoring my son and wanting to be glued to him all day. It unreal! And its getting worse over the years. If I had to invent a new diagnosis I would call this "disorder of perception". Maybe it is the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), the only thing is that my son doesnt fit alot of the autism diagnosis, only a few things, hence Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) not otherwise specified. He HATES being alone, he is extremely friendly and social, he loves playing with kids, he is not withdraw,he shares and compromises really well, but then there is this whole other piece. The other night we were outside with a group of people including some kids watching fireworks and he was mingling nicely, hanging out with the kids, all girls. One of the kids counsins came over and so some attention shifted to the newcomers, and a little clique type action started. Well my son instantly becomes furious AND crying at the same time, saying "well now they all hate me!" I mean it is so irrational it scares me! He wouldnt consider for a moment that what was happening wasjust normal of the other kids joining the group and all he needed to do was be friendly say hi to them. His night was ruined. Thats a perfect example of the problems at school. At starbucks when he is with me, if i stop and chit chat with the barista too long he starts to cry and says I must hate him now because I needed someone else to talk to. I am very worried, can this possibly be just autism when he doesnt really fit the autism diagnosis? he has reciprocal play, he doesnt view people as objects etc. Ugh so confused. So this is the main school issue! Social stories dont help, my son like yeah duh i know all that. I am in the proces of requesting an independent ed evaluation which i think will help all of us and an FBA. The thing is he has a really good IEP, I worked so hard on it, he has like 3 pages of accomodations, everything from breaks, snacks, no time out, fidgeting allowed, on and on and on. I think he needs a one on one for the above issues ! someone to be there and help him through those misperceptions because they are leading to him hitting and kicking the "offending" peers...he is very high anxiety and just spends all day worrying about everthing but especially about peers/friends. He is obssessed with other people and has no self esteem. Thank you for your help, this is confusing. He has been in every type of class and none fit him - in the autism classes he doesnt fit in well because he is so detaile orientated that he cannot handle when a child is rocking or shrieking or wont look at him or answer him when he talks. In the behavior rooms, well, that is the worst with all the charts and points, thats a no way. Maybe reg ed with an aide? I dont know. Seems if he had an aide in a high functioning or aspergers setting that may work for him. Thank you. [/QUOTE]
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