I went to difficult child's appointment with his individual therapist this evening because difficult child is in psychiatric hospital and I wanted to bring him up to date. To refresh memories, difficult child turned in two boys at school last Friday for selling drugs and alcohol, so I mentioned this to therapist. therapist looked shocked and said "you mean he turned them in- he told me he didn't want anyone to know about it". Would that concern you- I mean that this therapist did not mention this to anyone or encourage difficult child to turn them in or even tell me? difficult child has told me that therapist brings in games to play sometimes that difficult child can play there but that he knows he isn't allowed to play at home. That raised my eyebrows- and I was none too happy with therapist personally for a couple of other "signs" that made me think he wasn't really qualified or capable to work with the bigger problems here. But, I have still encouraged difficult child seeing him because difficult child has never had a male role model active in his life and seemed to eat this opportunity up and I thought the guy was helping difficult child deal with coping with daily, middle school age boy stuff. Anyway, I asked him if he would tell me if difficult child had ever or ever did use drugs. He said yes, but I'm not so sure I would believe him. Should I expect that from him for a kid this age? I'm wondering more now if the therapist is doing more enabling than helping.