and I just called and gave her a heads up because sometimes she just takes difficult child in, some some times both of us at the same time, and rarely do I get to have a few minutes to talk to her alone.
Yesterday was not fun. She put on enough makeup that little sis was embarassed to be seen at church with her. Then yesterday evening, she came home from friends house, walked to the family room doorway and glares at us and says "why didn't you tell me that my dad was coming by!" Well, what had happened, my son (her dad) had borrowed our van on Friday and was moving to a different house. All that happened was he stopped by, left the van, took his car back and went home. But after she glared and said that to us, she just did a fast twirl with a dramatic hair flip and marched off.
It seems like EVERYTHING that happens must revolve around her. What I cook, if she doesn't like it and little sis does, then I "only fix what she likes!" No matter what I do, it is because I don't like her! No matter what we discuss, she gets upset if I don't agree with her or she doesn't get her way. When the discussion gets to where she doesn't like it - she announces "this discussion is over! I am not talking to you! I can't talk to you! You don't have a clue!" etc.
So anyway, I called the therapist and left a message that I am overwhelmed, and in the past I never really told her how bad things are at home. She is defiant, angry, mean, hateful. But, when she wants something she turns in to the syrupy sweet girl and is disgustingly sweet and manipulative.
She is still "in love" with the boyfriend from h*ll, but luckily he was put on 6pm curfew by the corrections department. At age 17 (and she is 14) we aren't letting her "date". And another stroke of luck, he was moved to the alternative school, but after another week of good behavior, he may be let back in to regular high school. Even her best friend has tried to get her to see the light - but it hasn't happened yet.
She is either an extremely spoiled brat, or has a behavior or mental health issue. I really want answers. Even since the adoption over 7 years ago, she has been difficult. Of course we just felt that she had been thru a lot, or she was a little head strong, etc. The therapist we had then said it was a good thing that she was acting out some... as she finally felt comfortable with us to misbehave. I get the theory, but I really don't think that is it.
KSM
Yesterday was not fun. She put on enough makeup that little sis was embarassed to be seen at church with her. Then yesterday evening, she came home from friends house, walked to the family room doorway and glares at us and says "why didn't you tell me that my dad was coming by!" Well, what had happened, my son (her dad) had borrowed our van on Friday and was moving to a different house. All that happened was he stopped by, left the van, took his car back and went home. But after she glared and said that to us, she just did a fast twirl with a dramatic hair flip and marched off.
It seems like EVERYTHING that happens must revolve around her. What I cook, if she doesn't like it and little sis does, then I "only fix what she likes!" No matter what I do, it is because I don't like her! No matter what we discuss, she gets upset if I don't agree with her or she doesn't get her way. When the discussion gets to where she doesn't like it - she announces "this discussion is over! I am not talking to you! I can't talk to you! You don't have a clue!" etc.
So anyway, I called the therapist and left a message that I am overwhelmed, and in the past I never really told her how bad things are at home. She is defiant, angry, mean, hateful. But, when she wants something she turns in to the syrupy sweet girl and is disgustingly sweet and manipulative.
She is still "in love" with the boyfriend from h*ll, but luckily he was put on 6pm curfew by the corrections department. At age 17 (and she is 14) we aren't letting her "date". And another stroke of luck, he was moved to the alternative school, but after another week of good behavior, he may be let back in to regular high school. Even her best friend has tried to get her to see the light - but it hasn't happened yet.
She is either an extremely spoiled brat, or has a behavior or mental health issue. I really want answers. Even since the adoption over 7 years ago, she has been difficult. Of course we just felt that she had been thru a lot, or she was a little head strong, etc. The therapist we had then said it was a good thing that she was acting out some... as she finally felt comfortable with us to misbehave. I get the theory, but I really don't think that is it.
KSM