ok my lame attempt at humor........yes i got an hr sleep so i'm functioning again there should be a lengthy questionnaire when meeting a potential partner, or husband etc. yes for when we make children so we can see a complete list of all issues, family issues, etc. now think about it, when you buy a home you get an inspector, a report, etc., when you purchase a used car you get a carfax report, i'm sure i could name other things in life when you purchase you get a report lol. why not for this????????????? seriously. now with that being said adore my child to no end always will and probably would of done everything exactly the same way i did it, yet come on why not the report? it should be in a basket with-a bucket of pencils at a bar, restaraunt those speed dating thingys. wow the grief we'd save ourselves if we could be prepared ya know.?? for instance since my thing with-difficult child now eating, etc. new issues. i have come to learn ex h had a food phobia also, and anxiety and well we now know about his Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), anxiety depression etc. iv'e come to learn his mother, difficult child's paternal grandmother had food phobia, school refusal, high anxiety, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), depression, etc. mom also had a nervous breakdown as well when ex h was little. paternal grandfather wow couldn't even diagnosis him, def possible BiPolar (BP), anxiety, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), depression, personality disorder, drug abuse, you name it. so, see my point.??? k maybe i need more sleep?