I have not been here for ages: the kids have had their struggles, but they have been the SAME struggles, Know what I mean?? Having helped them before, I knew what to do. Call the doctor, stay with her, pick up her school work, call for a 504 meeting, etc. etc. Now I do NOT do what to do. They both want summer jobs. daughter (age 16) will need to fill out a job application: husband says she has a good chance at getting on at the pool because they do hire kids to sell candy, but, what should she put on her ap.? That she is bipolar? STABLE bipolar? Pretend it does not exist? DS wants a job also, and not just because daughter wants on. I think he wants to move more into the world. He also has aspergers syndrome and ADHD, inattentive type. I explained to him that he will NOT get a job as a computer programmer, but he still wants to work. And, while he can keep up with his class, he definately has aspergers. He is also lazy, and rather immature. He would need close supervision or he will play! I have offered him paid work around my place, as I can use the help, but he says that that would be PHYSICAL work and he is not the physical type. Which is true: he was a micro-preemie, he is asthmatic, has scoliosis, and is just not strong. Mind, he *IS* strong enough to do yard work, at 15 he is as strong as I am (middle aged, little, female) he just does not enjoy working that hard! He would rather have a desk job. As an adult I hope he WILL have a desk job: I can see him working at computers and I have spoken to him about college. But, I guess I never thought much about what he could do as an entry level job! How can I guide my children? They need to move out into the world, but, jobs are hard to find. It will not help at ALL if the one writes bipolar on her ap, and the other tells his boss he has aspergers! (Not telling his boss about the aspergers is not a good idea: after 5 minutes it is pretty obvious that he has SOMETHING!). Any advice?