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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 687341" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>There is always hope... But when in the midst of the drama (or lack thereof), they just don't see love.</p><p></p><p>Bill's oldest bio son, the one who is not part of our family, though we tried... He just doesn't see how much his actions hurt Bill. I don't think he ever will.</p><p></p><p>Belle couldn't see what she was doing to Bill - or to me. Yes, technically she is my "step"daughter, but let's be honest here, I think everyone who knows me, knows how I feel about her. Love trumps blood any day. We loved her, from afar for a while. We worried. She wouldn't speak to us, except to blame us for her bad choices or demand we enable her. We had to let her live on the streets. It didn't take long, for her; only about ten months between the time she left and the time she ended up in prison. And I thank the powers that be every day for that prison. You know why? Because she saw the harsh reality. A year behind razor wire brought clarity. She's still immature and makes stupid mistakes - but now, they're typical young-adult mistakes for the most part. And possibly best of all, she has acknowledged her past actions several times... always with the same phrase: "I don't know how you guys continued to love me, but that was how I made it through."</p><p></p><p>Pat... We feel helpless where he is concerned, and it hurts that he is rejecting us. But... After Belle... It's very different, and not quite as hard to let go and push the baby out of the nest. Still painful.</p><p></p><p>They DON'T know what they do. Some figure it out, some don't.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 687341, member: 6705"] There is always hope... But when in the midst of the drama (or lack thereof), they just don't see love. Bill's oldest bio son, the one who is not part of our family, though we tried... He just doesn't see how much his actions hurt Bill. I don't think he ever will. Belle couldn't see what she was doing to Bill - or to me. Yes, technically she is my "step"daughter, but let's be honest here, I think everyone who knows me, knows how I feel about her. Love trumps blood any day. We loved her, from afar for a while. We worried. She wouldn't speak to us, except to blame us for her bad choices or demand we enable her. We had to let her live on the streets. It didn't take long, for her; only about ten months between the time she left and the time she ended up in prison. And I thank the powers that be every day for that prison. You know why? Because she saw the harsh reality. A year behind razor wire brought clarity. She's still immature and makes stupid mistakes - but now, they're typical young-adult mistakes for the most part. And possibly best of all, she has acknowledged her past actions several times... always with the same phrase: "I don't know how you guys continued to love me, but that was how I made it through." Pat... We feel helpless where he is concerned, and it hurts that he is rejecting us. But... After Belle... It's very different, and not quite as hard to let go and push the baby out of the nest. Still painful. They DON'T know what they do. Some figure it out, some don't. [/QUOTE]
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