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They don't get what they put us through....
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 687358" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I was that way once although my son was very young at the time. Embarassingly I read the journal his teacher had him write. He was only nine, but he wrote very advanced for his age. His group of friends was a bit like mean girls and when it was his turn to be targeted, and he was sad, I felt sick, like throwing up. I couldn't function. I did not talk to my son becsuse I wasnt supposed to know.</p><p>He was NINE.</p><p>This interfered with my happiness so much that i got help and learned to separate myself from my son. This therapy helped me as things got hard for my grown kids. Although I felt anguish and empathy i was always able to at least remember that my child was the one who had to work through it, that I could not. Therapy is useful. Please be good to yourself and get therapy. Nothing is more toxic and horrible for us than living through our children. And, although it is common, it feels so bad and it is possible to learn how to stop it. We dont help our kids by living through their own instability. We need in my opinion to be able to seperate so we can be strong...for them and for us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 687358, member: 1550"] I was that way once although my son was very young at the time. Embarassingly I read the journal his teacher had him write. He was only nine, but he wrote very advanced for his age. His group of friends was a bit like mean girls and when it was his turn to be targeted, and he was sad, I felt sick, like throwing up. I couldn't function. I did not talk to my son becsuse I wasnt supposed to know. He was NINE. This interfered with my happiness so much that i got help and learned to separate myself from my son. This therapy helped me as things got hard for my grown kids. Although I felt anguish and empathy i was always able to at least remember that my child was the one who had to work through it, that I could not. Therapy is useful. Please be good to yourself and get therapy. Nothing is more toxic and horrible for us than living through our children. And, although it is common, it feels so bad and it is possible to learn how to stop it. We dont help our kids by living through their own instability. We need in my opinion to be able to seperate so we can be strong...for them and for us. [/QUOTE]
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