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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 687479" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I remember making that decision, too. I mean, it did not just happen that I was able to stop living what was happening to my kids right along with them. Like SWOT posted somewhere in this thread, we need to recognize and then, work really hard to separate from the emotions.</p><p></p><p>You know what?</p><p></p><p>I think that is how I got to be a jack-of-all trades person. I know a little bit about alot of things, and have met some interesting types along the way.</p><p>I am glad that happens for us. Everything about living the other way was just about killing me. The next time I need to distract myself, I will learn to play bridge like you, TL.</p><p></p><p>I am thinking about learning to paint.</p><p></p><p>We put so much of ourselves into being mothers that when the kids wander into rotten places and like them so much that they stay there and we cannot figure out why, we are destroyed. That is what I think happens to us. We keep trying to find the right thing that will put our families back together but there isn't one.</p><p></p><p>That is why this is so hard for us.</p><p></p><p>Creating new facets of self helped me put aside grieving for my life and my kids. Developing competence in whatever I was learning helped me refocus on my own life. </p><p></p><p>But it was very hard, and I don't wish this on anyone. For all we know, we may have learned all these things anyway ~ but we may have learned them better.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I am glad.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 687479, member: 17461"] I remember making that decision, too. I mean, it did not just happen that I was able to stop living what was happening to my kids right along with them. Like SWOT posted somewhere in this thread, we need to recognize and then, work really hard to separate from the emotions. You know what? I think that is how I got to be a jack-of-all trades person. I know a little bit about alot of things, and have met some interesting types along the way. I am glad that happens for us. Everything about living the other way was just about killing me. The next time I need to distract myself, I will learn to play bridge like you, TL. I am thinking about learning to paint. We put so much of ourselves into being mothers that when the kids wander into rotten places and like them so much that they stay there and we cannot figure out why, we are destroyed. That is what I think happens to us. We keep trying to find the right thing that will put our families back together but there isn't one. That is why this is so hard for us. Creating new facets of self helped me put aside grieving for my life and my kids. Developing competence in whatever I was learning helped me refocus on my own life. But it was very hard, and I don't wish this on anyone. For all we know, we may have learned all these things anyway ~ but we may have learned them better. I am glad. :O) Cedar [/QUOTE]
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