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<blockquote data-quote="mstang67chic" data-source="post: 37580" data-attributes="member: 2459"><p>I understand your concerns, I have similar problems with difficult child although he doesn't test anywhere near yours. Still though, he thinks he can go through life following HIS rules instead of society's/school etc. Honestly though, I don't know that I would push the summer school issue. He's testing extremely well so he's obviously absorbing the material. I would worry (at least with my difficult child) that if I made him go, he would be disruptive and cause more trouble than it's worth.</p><p></p><p>My difficult child is 17 now and still thinks, as he always has, that the only rules that are important are his. We have done everything we can to get him to see he has to follow others rules as well to get through life. I don't know that we've really had any sucess at this. He's got it in his mind that's he's somehow special or different and rules don't apply to him unless he's feeling particularly cooperative that day. Nothing we have done or said has made much of an impression with him. </p><p></p><p>I don't know that you can really "make" someone realize/accept this. Granted, this is just how I feel from dealing with my difficult child but really.......if someone truly doesn't want to do something, can you really make them? I'm not saying to give up, I haven't either. We still try to instill respect for rules/laws, talk with him, work on it in counseling, etc....I just don't see that anything we do though is going to make a difference. difficult child is either going to get it or not and he's going to have to go through the consequences and figure it out for himself.</p><p></p><p>For you, (in my opinion) I would drop the summer school thing. However, I would find something for him to do that has the potential to reinforce the following of rules, doing what's expected, etc. I know this isn't probably what you want to hear but as I said...Just my opinion based on my own experiences.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mstang67chic, post: 37580, member: 2459"] I understand your concerns, I have similar problems with difficult child although he doesn't test anywhere near yours. Still though, he thinks he can go through life following HIS rules instead of society's/school etc. Honestly though, I don't know that I would push the summer school issue. He's testing extremely well so he's obviously absorbing the material. I would worry (at least with my difficult child) that if I made him go, he would be disruptive and cause more trouble than it's worth. My difficult child is 17 now and still thinks, as he always has, that the only rules that are important are his. We have done everything we can to get him to see he has to follow others rules as well to get through life. I don't know that we've really had any sucess at this. He's got it in his mind that's he's somehow special or different and rules don't apply to him unless he's feeling particularly cooperative that day. Nothing we have done or said has made much of an impression with him. I don't know that you can really "make" someone realize/accept this. Granted, this is just how I feel from dealing with my difficult child but really.......if someone truly doesn't want to do something, can you really make them? I'm not saying to give up, I haven't either. We still try to instill respect for rules/laws, talk with him, work on it in counseling, etc....I just don't see that anything we do though is going to make a difference. difficult child is either going to get it or not and he's going to have to go through the consequences and figure it out for himself. For you, (in my opinion) I would drop the summer school thing. However, I would find something for him to do that has the potential to reinforce the following of rules, doing what's expected, etc. I know this isn't probably what you want to hear but as I said...Just my opinion based on my own experiences. [/QUOTE]
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