Biomom sent 900.00 western union. I told katie she had to go back to the motel. Explained yet again (cuz I did it tons of times before she came) that her dad and I simply can not afford to have her and family here for any real length of time. And that shelters were not taking their need seriously because they were staying with family. They've been great and made me proud and I told them so. But we just can't do it when they have funds for the motel or somewhere else to go. They will still eat dinner here and I'll help them with the other 2 meals until she gets foodstamps. We will still help, they will just not be staying here. If husband or I had a job I might have toughed it out and let them save the cash for rent/deposit for when the hud apartment becomes available. Might.......but honestly I don't know. Five extra people were just too many.........and Evan equals at least 3 difficult children now that he's gotten comfortable with us........I spend most of my time trying not to strangle him. And katie's husband is as much a child and a difficult child as the boys are,........and while I don't mind him......in large doses it gets to be too much. Honestly I've been feeling bad about this decision since yesterday. I'd made it purely by gut instinct and had not thought it through. I've gone back and forth on it a million times.......did not sleep well.......But after seeing her husband's behavior today......oh yeah. Right decision. Katie has grown up and is ready to change. Her husband is a difficult child who is a perpetual child that may never be able to grow up. Every since she picked up the cash her mom sent all she and I have heard is what he wants to buy.......stupid stuff.......stuff kids do ya know? Doesn't even phase him when she tells him that they have to have a place to LIVE first.......argh!! So odds are if I'd let them continue to stay here all that cash would be blown on stupid **** to fill up my house with a lot of junk. Nope. This puts the need of housing right back up in their faces again. Like it or not you are grown ups. Get it figured out. Katie has her priorities straight.....but she's going to have a battle keeping her husband in line and with the program. It is sooo obvious she has outgrown the man, even if she does still care for him. Family will continue to help, of course we will. But where the housing part of that help goes will depend on what I see is done with this money. If they come back here to stay if the cash runs out before a shelter spot opens or church can fund the rent is hanging in limbo right now. She should have paid 4 wks worth of motel rent.........she paid 1. ugh *slaps forhead* Her husband already talked her into buying snacks and wants to rent movies.......so I can see where this could easily head. Katie and her husband gave me the alternate plan for if they waste this money and want to come back here to stay. She told her biomom to lie to get into a dv shelter in springfield if that was the only way she could get shelter. Well, she'll be told the same thing if I see that money wasted. Cuz I won't be feeling too generous to have them back here to stay. So I guess we'll see just how badly katie wants to change. At the shelter she and her husband were never allowed together. She said it changed her, and changed the way she feels about him and his behavior (gfgness). Well, the line has sort have been drawn in the sand for them,. Time for her to stand up for herself and her kids. It hoovers. It hoovered years ago when I had to do it. I just hope to high heaven she's got it in her to do it for those kid's sake. Man, being a Mom sure can blow major wind.