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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 704823" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>For myself, I could not have my son live in our home. The main reason is I do not trust him to not steal from us but also because I know there is no way I could enforce a rule of "while you live under my roof you have to remain sober". I know that my son would use drugs and alcohol and lie to me about it. I also know my son and he would take complete advantage of the situation and not in a good way. It would be my hope that "helping" him would spark him to try and gain control of his life. Notice my words here, MY HOPE, not my sons. My son has no desire to live what I consider a more conventional type life, ie; a good job, a descent place to live, a car to drive, etc.... I have come to accept that my sons life choices will most likely never align with mine and that is okay.</p><p></p><p></p><p>This is it in a nut shell. Each of us can only do what we can live with. </p><p></p><p>Helping is one thing but when our children take advantage of that help and are not actively working to improve their lives then we have crossed a line into enabling.</p><p></p><p>As Copa said, there are not right or wrong answers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 704823, member: 18516"] For myself, I could not have my son live in our home. The main reason is I do not trust him to not steal from us but also because I know there is no way I could enforce a rule of "while you live under my roof you have to remain sober". I know that my son would use drugs and alcohol and lie to me about it. I also know my son and he would take complete advantage of the situation and not in a good way. It would be my hope that "helping" him would spark him to try and gain control of his life. Notice my words here, MY HOPE, not my sons. My son has no desire to live what I consider a more conventional type life, ie; a good job, a descent place to live, a car to drive, etc.... I have come to accept that my sons life choices will most likely never align with mine and that is okay. This is it in a nut shell. Each of us can only do what we can live with. Helping is one thing but when our children take advantage of that help and are not actively working to improve their lives then we have crossed a line into enabling. As Copa said, there are not right or wrong answers. [/QUOTE]
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