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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 704845" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>This relates to my issue with my own son about marijuana use, especially.</p><p></p><p>I see this as an issue of consent. If I tolerate his use in my home or property I control, I am endorsing this behavior. I see it as a kind of consent. </p><p></p><p>I do not know if I am right or wrong, but this is how I see it.</p><p></p><p>I was about to cave in. Because after all it will soon be legal in my state.</p><p></p><p>But M says we should take a stand while we still can. That we have so little leverage as it stands that we should not give in YET.</p><p></p><p>When I see that his use of marijuana hurts him, destabilizes him after the effect wears off, and marijuana represents his greatest motivation, for which he uses all his money--so that he does not want to pay rent to live a normal life, or have any other thing than marijuana--I worry that allowing him to use it around me, is in effect saying.</p><p></p><p>Fine.</p><p></p><p>I understand they are adults. But I also feel that parents represent for their children, until they die, and afterwards, a touchstone, a moral force. I never had that. I wish I had.</p><p></p><p>What are your ideas?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 704845, member: 18958"] This relates to my issue with my own son about marijuana use, especially. I see this as an issue of consent. If I tolerate his use in my home or property I control, I am endorsing this behavior. I see it as a kind of consent. I do not know if I am right or wrong, but this is how I see it. I was about to cave in. Because after all it will soon be legal in my state. But M says we should take a stand while we still can. That we have so little leverage as it stands that we should not give in YET. When I see that his use of marijuana hurts him, destabilizes him after the effect wears off, and marijuana represents his greatest motivation, for which he uses all his money--so that he does not want to pay rent to live a normal life, or have any other thing than marijuana--I worry that allowing him to use it around me, is in effect saying. Fine. I understand they are adults. But I also feel that parents represent for their children, until they die, and afterwards, a touchstone, a moral force. I never had that. I wish I had. What are your ideas? [/QUOTE]
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