that I haven't wanted to post anything. Son is working. girlfriend was (catch the was?) working. Biggest begging I got was for a bus pass, etc., and biggest drama was about their relationship. But his friend who's living there also hasn't started work - 3 weeks now. His girlfriend was fired Friday because McDonald's wanted people who could work the 24 hour shifts and she has to ride the bus. Today I got one of the calls I hate. "I'm the only one working. I can't do this by myself. I have no money. I don't know what to do. No one will listen. I can't pay the rent/deposit/utilities." They're still making payments on the deposit and they haven't been paying the electric because girlfriend wasn't working until mid-January. My response of: "Call the landlord and talk about the deposit. Call the electric company and put the damn phone in girlfriend 's hand since she won't do it herself and MAKE her make payment arrangements. Find out how to get copies of your check stubs so you can apply for food stamps and energy assistance. Don't spend a penny on anything besides rent and utilities - even if that means you quit smoking and walk to the Salvation Army for meals. You need to start looking for a full-time job or a second part-time job, because while you shouldn't have to do this alone, you may have to anyway." ...did not go over well. He's actually considering not going to work today because he's so upset. Again, my response of: "That's your choice to make, but it would be a damn stupid one." did not go over well. His response was something more like "Better than get fired because I'm in such a bad mood." The fact is, he makes $600 per month. He has one more check this month and it will be about $300.00. Then rent will be due before the next paycheck. His girlfriend last check will be only about $100.00. Rent is $375. Utilities ... he thinks the bill is going to be well over $300. They still owe $275 of the deposit. I fully understand why he's freaking out. He can't pay all this (plus $40 on the phone and $40 for bus passes plus food) on $600 per month. I don't think his friend has even looked for work. Now girlfriend isn't working and hasn't tried since she got fired Friday to find another job. He's actually trying and he's terrified of getting kicked out of the place he's in. I want to help. But I really can't. Because it won't "help". I sent him a text after he got mad and stopped talking to me. I told him, "I know you're upset and I don't blame you, I would be too. You need to give yourself a bit, then calm down and take it one step at a time. 1. Call landlord and see about skipping the deposit payment. 2. Call the power company and make a payment plan. 3. Find out how to get check stubs so you can reapply for Food Stamps and electric assistance. You aren't the only one ever to be in this position. Panicking will stop you from thinking. You can get through this. I believe in you. It will get better." or words to that effect. I just hate this. He actually is TRYING. Granted, not as hard as he should. Yes, he should be working full-time. I know he's spent some money foolishly. I know he hasn't budgeted well. But he's working and maintaining a job and actually trying. I want so badly for him to succeed. I wish I were more detached. I wish it were possible to not worry so much. And this problem is so very minor compared to so many on this board these days...I almost I hadn't posted it. I guess I just need a pep talk or a swift kick in the pants to keep my perspective.