I remember when my kids were young and I was lost, confused and desperate. Then I found this board. The combined wisdom and support found here saved my sanity and made me a better mom to my kids. I want you (parents of the 5 and under crowd) to know that things do get better. Maybe it will never be perfect, but it does get better. At age 5, Eeyore was destructive, had trouble in school, my dad was scared he was going to kill us in our sleep, and the psychiatrist was recommending we disrupt the adoption because he saw no hope. Today, at 15, Eeyore is a well-behaved young man. He still has his struggles with social cues and pragmatics of language and, well, he is a teenage boy. Now, he competes on several school teams. He is in a combination of Special Education and regular ed classes but works mostly at grade level. He is gentle and kind. He even keeps his room clean We got there through a combination of medication, therapy, school social work, school Special Education, Special Olympics and some intense parenting. It also helped a lot that as he got older, his maturity level got higher. Keep holding onto hope...it will lead the way.