I am so hurting right now. My best friend has a difficult child that used to be best friends with my difficult child when they were little. Her difficult child was drunk last night and saw my difficult child in someone's car in a parking lot. He got into the back where difficult child was sitting and grabbed him by the neck going off on him about being a drug addict and how much better he was than my difficult child. He threatened to kill my difficult child because he says difficult child said something bad about his mom. My difficult child is no angel but he loves this woman and I can't see him saying anything bad about her. My difficult child tells me what he said is, "so & so, I know your mom raised you better than this". When this started happening, the driver of the car my difficult child was in, got out of the car and went to talk to whoever was in the car so & so came out of. Once so & so went into the store after threatening to beat them up in the store, the driver came back to his car. He was too afraid to go into the store. So, they left. difficult child started getting text messages from so&so that he was going to kill him and how he is better than him. difficult child showed me his text messages and the text messages he sent in response. My difficult child kept his cool. He kept telling him that they would talk when so & so was sober. So & so even left a voicemail about wanting to kill difficult child. difficult child asked me to contact so & so's mom, my best friend, to tell her that he grabbed him by the neck and threatened him. I sent her a text because I was too upset and was afraid I would say something I shouldn't. I am not good with talking on the phone. I told her that he grabbed my difficult child by the neck, had the other guy terrified of him, and that he told my difficult child about what I said in confidence to her about my difficult child one other day. I shouldn't have added the last part in the text, I admit I was wrong on that part, I really just wanted her to know her son became violent last night. This difficult child just got arrested for drugs in his car and on his person a few weeks ago. She sent a text back to me that she is not getting involved and that my difficult child said bad things about her and she is unhappy with that, but she wanted to stay out of it. I text her back that I just wanted to let her know that he became violent last night and that I agree with staying out of it. The guys have to work it out themselves. I doubled check with difficult child if anyone had seen him grab his neck. He called the driver of the car he was in and asked in front of me if he saw it happen. The guy said not only did he grab my difficult child by the neck but grabbed him by the neck also. My difficult child did not see that. It happened when the driver was out of the car & not in view of my son. Well, after my text to her, her difficult child sent a text to mine that made mine want to go to the police to press charges for him grabbing his neck. Not sure what was in the text. difficult child said all of a sudden so & so changed his tune and apologized that he got caught up in the moment last night. My difficult child asked him to tell his mother that he did not say anything bad about her. So & so said he did but I doubt that. I truly believe he didn't tell his mom that my difficult child didn't say anything bad about her. I think he is just telling my difficult child whatever he thinks he wants to hear so he doesn't get charges pressed against him. I feel she is never going to know the real truth. At least my difficult child showed me the texts and had me listen to the voicemail. He was hurt with what so & so did and said. I know her difficult child would not show her the messages because of all the threats to kill my difficult child. I feel she will never know the truth and hold it against my difficult child, thinking her difficult child was defending her honor. I think this is always going to be a wedge between me and my friend. I am so upset.