There was a question on the CMRS questionnaire that husband and I disagreed on. Maybe you all can weigh in on this. "Think that he or she can be anything or do anything (e.g. leader, best basketball player, rap singer, millionaire, princess) beyond what is usual for that age." I checked "very often," and husband checked, "Never." I define it by difficult child's comments like, "I don't need guitar lessons. I already know how to play." Clearly, he does need lessons ... he can't even play a chord and he can't read notes. "I don't need to go to baseball practice. I am already the best player." husband defines it by defeatest comments like, "What's the point? The other team is going to win anyway." Or "I don't want to go to college. It's too much work." difficult child has never said he could be President or an astronaut, and I have told him he can be anything he wants, incl. those occupations. He has never tried to jump out of the car while it's moving. He has thought he could safely survive a plane crash in the water because water is softer, which is a typical childhood misunderstanding, and which the heroic pilot of flt 1549, Sullenberger, further romanticized, so I'm discounting that. How do we answer this question?