Got a message from the Behavior Therapist that difficult child needs to talk to us about her "future". Well, that can't be good... Last time difficult child wanted to discuss her future, it was because we "ruined her life" and she has no options and her future s*cks and it is all our fault. Well, geez! It's not our fault she is flunking out of school... and lost her part-time job... and has no goals... and no ambition. husband told her that regardless of anything - she is out when she turns 18. He has had ENOUGH. And difficult child has already been arguing her case that if she has no money and no place to go, then she's just gonna have to stay here... after all - it's all our fault. So now that Behavior Therapist wants to get involved - my guess is that she wants to discuss difficult child's fears that she'll really, really have to move out....and the therapist *knows* we don't mean that... Ugh! Why can't we just focus on the goal of trying to help difficult child be a successful human being? Instead of continuing to focus on how Mom and Dad are just not doing enough as paretns?