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This court battle is making him sick
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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 724603" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Bless your heart. The answer of course is, "I know you aren't, but there ARE lawyers and there ARE therapists and THEY are who you have to talk to because THEY are the ones that can help you find the answers you want!"</p><p></p><p>Which will get you no where fast with Bart it seems. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> </p><p></p><p>I wish I knew of some way to help.</p><p></p><p>You are right, whoever this "parent coordinator" is, I'm sure that she has Jr.'s best interest at heart. But she's probably seeing that these two can't agree. They can't agree which school is best, they can't agree on what activities he should be in, they simply can't and when that is the case one of them has to be in charge of the basic decisions like that. I'm not going to tell you that people don't tend to look to the mom first...it seems to be human nature. Maybe she sees a house, husband and sibling and therefore a more stable place than a single dad in an apartment. Maybe she thinks the new school is "better" or that mom's desire to put him in sports/scouts/clubs is better for him (I don't know what either think of extracurricular activities, that's a for-instance). SO many things could enter into it.</p><p></p><p>But on the up side, they don't need 50/50 LEGAL custody to have 50/50 PHYSICAL custody. They could keep even week to week, with the decision making with one or the other about schools, etc. Not ideal. Takes some bending on the part of the one without legal custody. But it's better than every other weekend and alternating holidays and 6 weeks in the summer - "standard" visitation. </p><p></p><p>Hang in there SWOT. No matter what happens, he'll still be Jr's dad. He'll still have his love and his affection and he'll still have time with him, maybe less or more than he wants, but that is life when a relationship ends.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 724603, member: 17309"] Bless your heart. The answer of course is, "I know you aren't, but there ARE lawyers and there ARE therapists and THEY are who you have to talk to because THEY are the ones that can help you find the answers you want!" Which will get you no where fast with Bart it seems. :( I wish I knew of some way to help. You are right, whoever this "parent coordinator" is, I'm sure that she has Jr.'s best interest at heart. But she's probably seeing that these two can't agree. They can't agree which school is best, they can't agree on what activities he should be in, they simply can't and when that is the case one of them has to be in charge of the basic decisions like that. I'm not going to tell you that people don't tend to look to the mom first...it seems to be human nature. Maybe she sees a house, husband and sibling and therefore a more stable place than a single dad in an apartment. Maybe she thinks the new school is "better" or that mom's desire to put him in sports/scouts/clubs is better for him (I don't know what either think of extracurricular activities, that's a for-instance). SO many things could enter into it. But on the up side, they don't need 50/50 LEGAL custody to have 50/50 PHYSICAL custody. They could keep even week to week, with the decision making with one or the other about schools, etc. Not ideal. Takes some bending on the part of the one without legal custody. But it's better than every other weekend and alternating holidays and 6 weeks in the summer - "standard" visitation. Hang in there SWOT. No matter what happens, he'll still be Jr's dad. He'll still have his love and his affection and he'll still have time with him, maybe less or more than he wants, but that is life when a relationship ends. [/QUOTE]
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