Californiablonde
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So my mom is on vacation until Sunday. You would think she would take it as an opportunity to relax and enjoy herself and not think about any problems. But nope, she has been texting me and calling me every day this week asking about difficult child. This morning I got the worst of it. Starting Monday morning difficult child began complaining about a sore throat, fatigue, and just generally not feeling well. Last night she threw up before dinner and went to bed at seven because she said she didn't feel well. She asked me to take her to the doctors today, which tells me she is really feeling sick because difficult child hates doctors. I told her I would take her today if she still wasn't feeling well.
This morning she said her throat hurt even worse than yesterday and she had a bad headache along with it. She also felt hot to the touch. So I left her home, went to work, and scheduled her for a doctor's appointment later today. My mom texted me earlier this morning and asked me if she was in school. When I told her difficult child is sick and I made an appointment for the doctors she about had a heart attack. She kept blowing up my phone with texts. Telling me she also had a sore throat a few days ago but she gargled with salt water and felt fine. Telling me a little sore throat is no reason for her to miss so much school. Reminding me of how many days difficult child has already missed this year cause of her ulcers. I stood my ground and told her I am her parent and I think she needs to see a doctor.
difficult child is notorious for getting sick then having it turn into tonsilitis because her tonsils are already enlarged and she is succeptible to throat infections. My mom knows this and doesn't care. She tells me I can't afford the $20 to take her to the doctors so I shouldn't waste my money. She is telling me that I am the one who is going to reap the consequences sooner or later for difficult child's lack of attendance. Trying to give me the guilt trip by saying I don't care about her getting an education. Making me feel bad for keeping difficult child home. She told me I need to pick up difficult child on my lunch break today and so she can at least make it to her last class. Today her last class is PE. I am not taking her to school and have her do PE when she is sick. So I tell my mom this and she tells me to take her to school anyway and excuse her from PE. Then after school she wanted difficult child to go to her English teacher and work on some of her end of the year project. I couldn't excuse difficult child from PE if I wanted to. Just what in the world does my mother think difficult child is going to do for an hour and a half instead going to the gym? She certainly can't hang out in the office. School policy is if a student is sick they are either home all day or they go to class and tough it out. I am not going to make my daughter do PE today. I am taking her to the doctors, period.
I know that her pediatrician is going to likely excuse her from school again tomorrow if she has a fever. He is adamant about bed rest and staying home from school if a child has anything that is contagious. So if it's the flu he won't want her to come to school tomorrow either. My mom is telling me that no matter what the doctor says later today, I am to send difficult child to school tomorrow. I don't know what else to say to her so I am ignoring her. I am trying to work and she is constantly interrupting me with her harrassing texts. My therapist told me long ago to tell her to politely butt out and stop trying to control me. So I tried to tell her politely a few months ago that she is making me feel incompetent as a parent and she turned it around on me. She cried and told me she is only concerned for her grandkid's welfare and I should be grateful instead of complaining. So now I shut up and I don't tell her when she makes me upset. So sorry the big rant here but I really needed to get it out somewhere!
This morning she said her throat hurt even worse than yesterday and she had a bad headache along with it. She also felt hot to the touch. So I left her home, went to work, and scheduled her for a doctor's appointment later today. My mom texted me earlier this morning and asked me if she was in school. When I told her difficult child is sick and I made an appointment for the doctors she about had a heart attack. She kept blowing up my phone with texts. Telling me she also had a sore throat a few days ago but she gargled with salt water and felt fine. Telling me a little sore throat is no reason for her to miss so much school. Reminding me of how many days difficult child has already missed this year cause of her ulcers. I stood my ground and told her I am her parent and I think she needs to see a doctor.
difficult child is notorious for getting sick then having it turn into tonsilitis because her tonsils are already enlarged and she is succeptible to throat infections. My mom knows this and doesn't care. She tells me I can't afford the $20 to take her to the doctors so I shouldn't waste my money. She is telling me that I am the one who is going to reap the consequences sooner or later for difficult child's lack of attendance. Trying to give me the guilt trip by saying I don't care about her getting an education. Making me feel bad for keeping difficult child home. She told me I need to pick up difficult child on my lunch break today and so she can at least make it to her last class. Today her last class is PE. I am not taking her to school and have her do PE when she is sick. So I tell my mom this and she tells me to take her to school anyway and excuse her from PE. Then after school she wanted difficult child to go to her English teacher and work on some of her end of the year project. I couldn't excuse difficult child from PE if I wanted to. Just what in the world does my mother think difficult child is going to do for an hour and a half instead going to the gym? She certainly can't hang out in the office. School policy is if a student is sick they are either home all day or they go to class and tough it out. I am not going to make my daughter do PE today. I am taking her to the doctors, period.
I know that her pediatrician is going to likely excuse her from school again tomorrow if she has a fever. He is adamant about bed rest and staying home from school if a child has anything that is contagious. So if it's the flu he won't want her to come to school tomorrow either. My mom is telling me that no matter what the doctor says later today, I am to send difficult child to school tomorrow. I don't know what else to say to her so I am ignoring her. I am trying to work and she is constantly interrupting me with her harrassing texts. My therapist told me long ago to tell her to politely butt out and stop trying to control me. So I tried to tell her politely a few months ago that she is making me feel incompetent as a parent and she turned it around on me. She cried and told me she is only concerned for her grandkid's welfare and I should be grateful instead of complaining. So now I shut up and I don't tell her when she makes me upset. So sorry the big rant here but I really needed to get it out somewhere!