This is kinda backing up to Midwest Mom's post a few weeks ago. And others have also posted about having demanding/narcissistic parents. My boyfriend FOREVER(since 16!) is a narcissist. I realized that I am avoiding answering playing her VM because I just don't want another conversation centering on her and the 100x magnified wrongs in her life while she fails to even recognize the HUGE emotional things going on in my life. (Now, it's easy when it's a bff - because we have lots of other positive aspects in our relationship - plus we don't live near each other. ANd she would bail me out of jail. Enough said) Yet - I've attracted (or chosen?) quite a few other narcissists in my personal life. Sometimes, I think I RAISED difficult child to be a narcissist. Not that I am sure he is - but he certainly is a prima donna (primo donno?) But he is also a 20 yo MAN - which may be part and parcel. I actually said to my brother a few weeks ago - "I was raised by a Prima Donna and NOW I HAVE RAISED ONE." Anyway, I think it's because I learned from my earliest experiences that things went A LOT better when I accommodated my narcissist parent. I am not meek or mild by any means - but I think I am way too accommodating to people when they display narcissism. I want to to be "their golden child" maybe? I don't know why this is striking me today - probably because my boyfriend was leaving me a voice mail as I was listening to my mom tell me all about her luxury cruise to Europe. I have a TON of things going on in my life - yet the few people closest to me have no idea. They may ask "how are you? What's new?" but never pause long enough to let me really answer. That said - I feel bad because I think I sometimes end up taking it out on H because he is around and he is not a narcissist. I am so hyper sensitive to him showing me a glimpse of entitlement or selfishness or a "me first attitude" that I pounce when he does. I don't know why I am posting this - just needed to get it off my chest, I guess.