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toughlovin
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Hi all,
So my husband is going to be going to the family day at the rehab my son is at tomorrow... and then meet with our difficult child and his therapist. I decided not to fly down just for a two hour meeting and afternoon with difficult child.... my husband was already there on business. In many ways I think it is better if husband handle this than me... my relationship with difficult child is much more loaded than his.
So the therapist wants him to outline our expectations and consequences if he doesn't meet them.
I asked my husband to start with his ideas.... as he is the one who has to believe and deliver them. LOL. But I could certainly use your feedback.
My feeling is it is really pretty simple. Our expectations are that he continue with treatment, live a sober life in a sober living place (once he is discharged), that he get a job and/or go to school and start supporting himself. We will help get started by paying rent at a sober living place but only one place, if he gets kicked out he is on his own again. And we will not give him any money directly for anything. We may help him get some clothes (he may have lost most of them) but forget us getting another bike or any extras.
Does all that make sense?
TL
So my husband is going to be going to the family day at the rehab my son is at tomorrow... and then meet with our difficult child and his therapist. I decided not to fly down just for a two hour meeting and afternoon with difficult child.... my husband was already there on business. In many ways I think it is better if husband handle this than me... my relationship with difficult child is much more loaded than his.
So the therapist wants him to outline our expectations and consequences if he doesn't meet them.
I asked my husband to start with his ideas.... as he is the one who has to believe and deliver them. LOL. But I could certainly use your feedback.
My feeling is it is really pretty simple. Our expectations are that he continue with treatment, live a sober life in a sober living place (once he is discharged), that he get a job and/or go to school and start supporting himself. We will help get started by paying rent at a sober living place but only one place, if he gets kicked out he is on his own again. And we will not give him any money directly for anything. We may help him get some clothes (he may have lost most of them) but forget us getting another bike or any extras.
Does all that make sense?
TL