Hi there, I posted before christmas about my 19 difficult child who was depressed and said he didnt want to come home for xmas and wanted to stay in halls alone with no food or facilities for cooking. Not sure if you remember, ?? Also posted about his previous depression and feelings of suicide. Dispite all my efforts he refused and still refuses help/medication, and counselling. Your replies were very very helpfull and I have been reading books and info on detachment and it makes a great deAl of sense. I have been trying to implement changes , although these are limited coz he is away from home at uni. My question is he has these flips where he is ok for a while then out the blue will send me a text saying something really worrying, the latest being that he feels like drinking bleach! Now part of me wonders if he is looking for a reaction from me. Its like he wants to get into a sort of debate with me and then say really hurtfull things to me, this has happened before. I am learning this and on NYE i had a bit of a party and he stayed in his room but then sent me an abusive text as if he wanted attention. I ignored his text. He then went outside and into the shed and sat in the dark???!!! Wierd I know, unfortunatly my husband happeded to go outside and saw the shed unlocked and locked him him!. Somehow he managed to get out and made a fuss about being locked in. I was really embarressed all this in front of all my friends. I just said to him, if u want to go and sit in the dark in the shed in the middle of the night again let us know and we wont lock u in!!! Thats all i said...the next am he was fine as if nothing had happened. Now i have the bleach situation? I am just not sure how to handle this. He knows that since my dad and grandfather both committed suicide it is a very difficult thing for me to hear. I just said to him would he like me to call and we can chat he just said No! Is this a serious suicide threat???? Is this just attention seeking??? Is he just trying to get a reaction out of me?? Any advice on how I should handle this would be much appreciated.