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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 644879" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I recall your story. Your son decided to come home for the holiday. </p><p></p><p>You are in the UK, so the resources we have here are not available for you, however, you may want to do some research and see if you have anything there like NAMI, here. NAMI is the National Alliance on Mental Illness. They have many chapters and offer very good courses for us parents on how to deal with our troubled kids. There may be something like that for you. In the absence of that, you may want to find a counselor for you to learn coping skills, to get support in detaching, to have a place to vent and express yourself and for guidance.</p><p></p><p>Other parents here who face their kids threatening self destructive acts or suicide often call the authorities immediately. If it is a ploy for attention, it will likely stop when the authorities show up. Then you have taken action in case it is serious and he learns that you will take action each and every time he makes those kinds of threats.</p><p></p><p>Even when our kids are mentally challenged they are often quite manipulative, very bright and know right from wrong. You are the one being dragged around by his whims and behaviors. It is exhausting. That's why I believe in getting professional help for YOU. He may not get himself help, but you can get help for YOU. That support will allow you to make the changes that are necessary for us to have our own lives back even when our kids live in drama and chaos. It is not easy, but it is doable.</p><p></p><p>There is no way for us to know if it is a serious suicide threat or attention seeking........he may not even know........but if you let him know that every single time he makes those kinds of threats that you will call the authorities, you will really have done all you can do. I am sorry to say this, but if he indeed is ever going to commit suicide, there is really no way you can stop that. None of us can. All you can do is call in the authorities and get as much support for yourself so that you can make the choices you need to make to keep yourself healthy. You have no control over his actions. You didn't cause this and you can't fix it. Only he can. But in the meantime, he can take all the air out of your life and leave you depleted and exhausted from his behaviors. Take care of yourself. Get support. Keep posting and reading books. Call the authorities when you have to. And begin putting the focus on yourself and taking it off of him. Hang in there. We're here if you need us. You're not alone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 644879, member: 13542"] I recall your story. Your son decided to come home for the holiday. You are in the UK, so the resources we have here are not available for you, however, you may want to do some research and see if you have anything there like NAMI, here. NAMI is the National Alliance on Mental Illness. They have many chapters and offer very good courses for us parents on how to deal with our troubled kids. There may be something like that for you. In the absence of that, you may want to find a counselor for you to learn coping skills, to get support in detaching, to have a place to vent and express yourself and for guidance. Other parents here who face their kids threatening self destructive acts or suicide often call the authorities immediately. If it is a ploy for attention, it will likely stop when the authorities show up. Then you have taken action in case it is serious and he learns that you will take action each and every time he makes those kinds of threats. Even when our kids are mentally challenged they are often quite manipulative, very bright and know right from wrong. You are the one being dragged around by his whims and behaviors. It is exhausting. That's why I believe in getting professional help for YOU. He may not get himself help, but you can get help for YOU. That support will allow you to make the changes that are necessary for us to have our own lives back even when our kids live in drama and chaos. It is not easy, but it is doable. There is no way for us to know if it is a serious suicide threat or attention seeking........he may not even know........but if you let him know that every single time he makes those kinds of threats that you will call the authorities, you will really have done all you can do. I am sorry to say this, but if he indeed is ever going to commit suicide, there is really no way you can stop that. None of us can. All you can do is call in the authorities and get as much support for yourself so that you can make the choices you need to make to keep yourself healthy. You have no control over his actions. You didn't cause this and you can't fix it. Only he can. But in the meantime, he can take all the air out of your life and leave you depleted and exhausted from his behaviors. Take care of yourself. Get support. Keep posting and reading books. Call the authorities when you have to. And begin putting the focus on yourself and taking it off of him. Hang in there. We're here if you need us. You're not alone. [/QUOTE]
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