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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 10374" data-attributes="member: 393"><p>Jamie,</p><p></p><p>You have to remember that in the middle of a rage our difficult children are talking (screaming) off the tops of their heads. I've learned that while hurtful, many times kt & wm were embarrassed & apologetic about rages & things said.</p><p></p><p>Many times neither of them had any memory of what was screamed, what the start of the rage was or why they were being given consequences.</p><p></p><p>I believe I have a stone heart to the "terms of endearment" that are thrown my way when kt or wm blow.</p><p></p><p>Your husband is entitled to his feelings; he's entitled to be frustrated at his inability to parent & give consequences as any normal parent would. And he is entitled to be angry at the illness. As are you.</p><p></p><p>You & husband need to come up with a game plan; a united front for difficult child. Tag off to each other when difficult child is out of control. husband & I would tag off every 10 minutes or so during one of kt's infamous 5 hour meltdowns or wm's frequent rages. </p><p></p><p>husband & I never argue over a treatment plan that we have discussed & worked on. We agree that a plan isn't working. We have, however, learned to express our frustrations over the illness; over the roadblocks & other triangulations that the tweedles can & will throw in the mix. Things that will damage our relationship if we let it.</p><p></p><p>Find some time alone with husband. Work out some kind of plan & your responses to it. Back up husband in front of your difficult child, whether you like it or not. Discuss it in private, with-o anger after the situation. </p><p></p><p>I'm talking from very painful experience here. Don't let the illness damage your marriage. </p><p></p><p>Take care of you. :warrior:</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 10374, member: 393"] Jamie, You have to remember that in the middle of a rage our difficult children are talking (screaming) off the tops of their heads. I've learned that while hurtful, many times kt & wm were embarrassed & apologetic about rages & things said. Many times neither of them had any memory of what was screamed, what the start of the rage was or why they were being given consequences. I believe I have a stone heart to the "terms of endearment" that are thrown my way when kt or wm blow. Your husband is entitled to his feelings; he's entitled to be frustrated at his inability to parent & give consequences as any normal parent would. And he is entitled to be angry at the illness. As are you. You & husband need to come up with a game plan; a united front for difficult child. Tag off to each other when difficult child is out of control. husband & I would tag off every 10 minutes or so during one of kt's infamous 5 hour meltdowns or wm's frequent rages. husband & I never argue over a treatment plan that we have discussed & worked on. We agree that a plan isn't working. We have, however, learned to express our frustrations over the illness; over the roadblocks & other triangulations that the tweedles can & will throw in the mix. Things that will damage our relationship if we let it. Find some time alone with husband. Work out some kind of plan & your responses to it. Back up husband in front of your difficult child, whether you like it or not. Discuss it in private, with-o anger after the situation. I'm talking from very painful experience here. Don't let the illness damage your marriage. Take care of you. [img]:warrior:[/img] [/QUOTE]
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