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<blockquote data-quote="Eugenia" data-source="post: 707411" data-attributes="member: 21226"><p>Dearest Magpie...</p><p>How heartbreaking, and so familiar to many of us here, and what is most familiar to me about your story is a teenage addict affecting the life of a 5 year old, I know this story too well, unfortunately.</p><p></p><p>My 5 year old is now 18, a senior in high school, and a truly remarkable young woman. She has lived through the trauma of her big brother for all the years of her life she can recall, she only knows him as an addict, which is sad she doesn't know the boy he was before, a wonderful son...</p><p></p><p>She's currently applying to colleges and hopes to study Neuro Biology. She has a passion about the study of the brain, because of her brother and his disease of addiction. She's a remarkable human, and has been affected, all her life, by his behaviors...</p><p></p><p>At the age of 5, she witnessed his first arrest, in our home, he was 15 years old, I dialed 911 when an argument between son and husband was escalating and I was frightened it was about to get physical. I hung up the phone, and then learned if you dial 911 and hang up, the police come anyway...</p><p></p><p>I tried to get the little girl out of the house, not to witness what was going to happening, but the police car was parked behind my car, and I couldn't get out of the driveway. The argument between my son and the officer now continued outside, and as my son told the officer he wasn't going anywhere with him, the policeman proceeded to pin him against the house and cuff him, while my 5 year old watched and screamed and cried the entire time, while trapped in a car that could not escape the witnessing of this event. And today, she has total recall of this event.</p><p></p><p>The rest of her life, she was witness to family arguments and discussions about what to do with the addict in our home. She was constantly asked to leave the room, because we needed to 'talk to brother', it became natural for her to just go upstairs and try not to listen as he was once again in trouble for stealing, getting arrested, going to rehab here in state and in florida, living in his car, getting arrested again, rehabs again, and then jail, a brief recovery and a return home for their sister's wedding, another relapse, more stealing, violation of probation, impending arrest, missing for weeks, found, lost again, found again, and now back in rehab, maybe?</p><p></p><p>My heart is broken in many pieces, for my son, because I cannot save him, but for my daughters, the older one who grew up with him and had the closest relationship with him, and deals with her heartbreak and anxiety issues clearly related to her life with him, and my little girl, who only knows life with an addict, who is a wonderful citizen, honor student, athlete, and continues to gain weight due to repression of her feelings, and I'm worried about both of my girls and how life with the addict brother his affected them.</p><p></p><p>Protect that little girl from a life you seem to already know, as you mentioned, you lived it, too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Eugenia, post: 707411, member: 21226"] Dearest Magpie... How heartbreaking, and so familiar to many of us here, and what is most familiar to me about your story is a teenage addict affecting the life of a 5 year old, I know this story too well, unfortunately. My 5 year old is now 18, a senior in high school, and a truly remarkable young woman. She has lived through the trauma of her big brother for all the years of her life she can recall, she only knows him as an addict, which is sad she doesn't know the boy he was before, a wonderful son... She's currently applying to colleges and hopes to study Neuro Biology. She has a passion about the study of the brain, because of her brother and his disease of addiction. She's a remarkable human, and has been affected, all her life, by his behaviors... At the age of 5, she witnessed his first arrest, in our home, he was 15 years old, I dialed 911 when an argument between son and husband was escalating and I was frightened it was about to get physical. I hung up the phone, and then learned if you dial 911 and hang up, the police come anyway... I tried to get the little girl out of the house, not to witness what was going to happening, but the police car was parked behind my car, and I couldn't get out of the driveway. The argument between my son and the officer now continued outside, and as my son told the officer he wasn't going anywhere with him, the policeman proceeded to pin him against the house and cuff him, while my 5 year old watched and screamed and cried the entire time, while trapped in a car that could not escape the witnessing of this event. And today, she has total recall of this event. The rest of her life, she was witness to family arguments and discussions about what to do with the addict in our home. She was constantly asked to leave the room, because we needed to 'talk to brother', it became natural for her to just go upstairs and try not to listen as he was once again in trouble for stealing, getting arrested, going to rehab here in state and in florida, living in his car, getting arrested again, rehabs again, and then jail, a brief recovery and a return home for their sister's wedding, another relapse, more stealing, violation of probation, impending arrest, missing for weeks, found, lost again, found again, and now back in rehab, maybe? My heart is broken in many pieces, for my son, because I cannot save him, but for my daughters, the older one who grew up with him and had the closest relationship with him, and deals with her heartbreak and anxiety issues clearly related to her life with him, and my little girl, who only knows life with an addict, who is a wonderful citizen, honor student, athlete, and continues to gain weight due to repression of her feelings, and I'm worried about both of my girls and how life with the addict brother his affected them. Protect that little girl from a life you seem to already know, as you mentioned, you lived it, too. [/QUOTE]
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