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Threw step son out. Marriage struggling.
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<blockquote data-quote="wisernow" data-source="post: 707413" data-attributes="member: 20373"><p>Dear Magpie:</p><p></p><p>Your story and all of the above stories are so very heartbreaking. You did the RIGHT thing by removing the son from the house. And your wife is in denial. She may or may not come around. That depends on her. Your job now is to save you, and your daughter from the negative vortex your step son has created. Drug dealers do come around, and your daughter is at very high risk.</p><p></p><p>We had to remove our son at age 16...same reasons. Police, fights, aggression, drugs, mental health, and then the spin cycle would start all over again. I remember going to a support group and the leader said , if something doesn't change why would you expect any different outcome?</p><p></p><p>The struggles with son consumed the house. It consumed our every conversation, our sense of being. The struggle became us and as the few close friends who to this day remain, tell me...that's when you were in the dark years. The dark years were in fact almost a decade. </p><p></p><p>Sadly the marriage crumbled. However our daughter who witnessed this horrific drama always strived so hard to do the right thing, never cause waves, be compliant, be silent. Yes she is a role model, she is now in second year medication school to become a doctor. But the toll emotionally on her is that she cant trust people, she cant be in an intimate relationship. She knows she has issues to work through.</p><p></p><p>My heart breaks for both my son who still struggles. I have an at arms length relationship with him as I have fully detached.</p><p></p><p>My heart doubly breaks for my daughter who was a silent victim who had to witness household warfare, her brother's cutting, attempted hanging, violence, manipulation. She was the innocent bystander who by virtue of a being a family member was swept up by that tidal wave of horror. I wish I would have saved her years earlier from that.</p><p></p><p>Magpie....you are doing the right thing. Many hugs for you...stay strong...and hold that little girl close to your heart. Her mother right now is not capable of doing that. God bless....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="wisernow, post: 707413, member: 20373"] Dear Magpie: Your story and all of the above stories are so very heartbreaking. You did the RIGHT thing by removing the son from the house. And your wife is in denial. She may or may not come around. That depends on her. Your job now is to save you, and your daughter from the negative vortex your step son has created. Drug dealers do come around, and your daughter is at very high risk. We had to remove our son at age 16...same reasons. Police, fights, aggression, drugs, mental health, and then the spin cycle would start all over again. I remember going to a support group and the leader said , if something doesn't change why would you expect any different outcome? The struggles with son consumed the house. It consumed our every conversation, our sense of being. The struggle became us and as the few close friends who to this day remain, tell me...that's when you were in the dark years. The dark years were in fact almost a decade. Sadly the marriage crumbled. However our daughter who witnessed this horrific drama always strived so hard to do the right thing, never cause waves, be compliant, be silent. Yes she is a role model, she is now in second year medication school to become a doctor. But the toll emotionally on her is that she cant trust people, she cant be in an intimate relationship. She knows she has issues to work through. My heart breaks for both my son who still struggles. I have an at arms length relationship with him as I have fully detached. My heart doubly breaks for my daughter who was a silent victim who had to witness household warfare, her brother's cutting, attempted hanging, violence, manipulation. She was the innocent bystander who by virtue of a being a family member was swept up by that tidal wave of horror. I wish I would have saved her years earlier from that. Magpie....you are doing the right thing. Many hugs for you...stay strong...and hold that little girl close to your heart. Her mother right now is not capable of doing that. God bless.... [/QUOTE]
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