I just can not believe it. I remember being so jealous of the members that were able to post that their difficult child was graduating. I thought this day would never come. I remember thinking how many years I had to get through to get to graduation day and there was doubt that we would make it here. Alive. Sane. Relationship in tact. We did it! Tomorrow night at 6:45 you can know that there will be one very proud mom wiping tears from her face as she watchs her baby girl walk across the stage in a cap and gown. Surreal. For those of you that do not know my difficult children story, here is a short recap. She was a difficult child. In fact, that was the first diagnosis we got from the first wacky therapist we saw. We read 'The Difficult Child' and tried all the techniques that did not help. School was the worst. Constant phone calls and trouble until we found the right medications. Barely passed most years. Summer school three times. Her tics have come and gone throughout her life with stress level changes. Counseling did not help. The only thing it did was give her the line, "Dr. R said my feelings count to." of course this was said only when she was not getting her way. I learned from Timer Lady to 'validate' the feelings, but that did not really change the outcome for difficult child. Moving her to her father's for a year was perhaps the hardest thing I have ever done, but maybe the best thing I have ever done for difficult child. The ODD is the worst part of my difficult child. I said to my boyfriend just last night, "I can't believe that I am so nice and have such a mean, rude child." But, I guess if that is what she chooses (and at 18 she is choosing it) so be it. She is still what I would consider a miserable child. She is lazy, unmotivated and generally nasty. But, she can brighten a room with her smile at times and she is VERY funny. Not very social. Likes to stay home and in her room. Her loss. Still has a problem with my boyfriend - it has been 6.5 years of dating and she still has not accepted him into her life. Yes, there have been moments of family-like behavior, but she still insists he will not be a part of her life when she moves out. I know better. She is signed up for the community college in the 'Criminal Justice' program. She wants to be a Parole Officer. I think she would make a good one - she doesn't take any carp from anyone. Fingers crossed she actually makes it. Still waiting for the job and driver's license to appear. No effort into the job. Failed the license first time around, hopefully in July she will pass. Thanks to all of you for your support and help through the years. I do not know where I would be today, or where difficult child would be today if it were not for this site!