So difficult child has been gone for a month. If anything he is worse, and I don't think the Seroquel is working. I had a blunt and frank conversation with family therapist last night, she caught me at a time when my armour was down (I had been crying for hours, just so sick of all this and found out easy child is getting her tonsils out 1/2). I told her I thought difficult child was worse, I was upset with psychiatrist for changing medications and not notifying me (she "strongly encouraged" me to file a grievance), I was not sure what family therapy was supposed to accomplish, and I felt like nothing had been accomplished. She told me that as the parent I have the right to say what medications he takes,and once again, she "strongly" encouraged me to be very up front with psychiatrist about wanting to stop the seroquel (in other words, tell them I refuse to let him take it). I have it written out(as long as I don't forget it). I also want his thyroid and cholesterol rechecked, as the thyroid was low on reading and borderline low on another, and his cholesterol was a little high. I have not been happy with how things are going, and it is time to get more aggressive. This is a chance we may not get for a long time again to see what he is like off medications, he has been on medications since he was 8. It is time to do something, and I am going to have to instigate it.