Took my son's car (my car) for a ride yesterday and it was disgusting inside. I had completely detailed it the last time he screwed up by smoking in the car, to sell it. At the last hour, he promised....not to smoke )pot) or let anyone else and if I found pot stuff, it's gone. Staying in school and having a part time job to pay for gas was also a promise but since then he quit his job, does smoke and let others smoke in the car, left rolling papers, a tiny part of a joint, tons of air fresheners, lighter and matches. I had also found other pot **** that he got rid of or returned to the owner. Just opened his grades from Jr. College, second try, and out of five classes he is only barely passing one and the rest are F's. We drive him to school so Monday he will be meeting with his advisor to discuss everything and where to go from there. For some reason I feel like **** selling his car and buying one I can drive (it's a 5speed) He is very ****** and doesn't think he deserves this, of course. I have one thing of leverage left other than the car...I bought him tickets to a three day music event in July that all his friends are going to, for his birthday. We held out for a month before caving with conditions. His excuse about the car is the stuff I found is old! I shouldn't feel badly because I have given him several chances with warnings so I know I have to follow through, but I just feel so let down and also because of his grades. If he withdrawls he will owe the school money back for the Financial Aid. If he fails all his classes he probably will owe also. He tells me he wants to be a Social Worker...yet he is failing? WTF!