I really feel like I could just hide from everyone for a while!!! Hubby has always been one to internalize his problems and 'retreats to his man cave' instead of discussing the problem. He welcomes my children and grands to visit overnight, but doesn't want the grands to bring a friend. They normally only visit once a year for a few days. I can understand that BUT my 18yo came for Thanksgiving and brought her friend. The friend was polite and no trouble at all. I was glad she didn't make the trip driving by herself. Hubby stayed in his room the entire 2 days - he came out 1 time when they arrived to say hello - I just told them he wasn't feeling well - which is the truth! My difficult child wants no contact 'cause 'I never loved him' I am not sending money and I have no address to mail a gift. Girl friend has cut off all ties with his family, especially me and his sister. Hubby doesn't care for family gatherings, that is OK with me, and I am honest about it to my family, he is the same way with his family. He is friendly when they come to our house - he is a retired massage therapist and works on several of my relatives at no charge. We volunteered for Hospice for 6 years and he gave massages - he is a big hearted good man. Hubby's 3 adult daughters really do not keep in touch. 2 have small children and I usually buy Disney gifts and send them. This week I ask him if he had their sizes and likes and he just said, 'no'. I guess he is tired of tracking them down - I know it hurts his feelings when they can't take the time to send a card, much less a phone call. When I first met him about 14 years ago he was paying for them to come during the summer to visit for a week. We paid for everything - the trip cost us abou $4000 to $5000 each time. Disney is expensive lol! When we retired that stopped - so now that we do not pay they do not visit. He always sends out lots of Christmas cards - nothing this year. I guess he is 'skipping Christmas' this year! I will visit my daughter after Christmas and do some shopping. They are very busy with their activites so it works out well for them,and it will take the stress out of the visit. I usually enjoy this time of the year, but this year it is really stressful. Am I the only one that has a husband that doesn't enjoy overnight visitors or family gatherings?? As much as I love my wonderful husband he does have some quirks that really stress me out! I think I would rather have him yell and get it out of his system than to retreat and shut down.