I have been reading this post for about a year now. I have a 21 year old Difficult Child, I think that she is Bi-Polar and also has Borderline Personality Disorder. She started smoking weed when she was 12. She ended up in juvenile jail at 15 and stayed until she was 20. The juvenile system tried every way in the world to help her, they sent her to two different colleges and beauty school. Nothing has worked, every time that they put her some where else, she does something else to get thrown out, mostly sexual acts with other men. She stole her money to pay for college and ran with an under age girl. It took almost 2 weeks to find her. She prostituted herself while she was on the run to make money to support them. I would have no way to know how many sexual partners she has had. The whole time she was in jail she cut herself. She has cuts all over her arms and the upper parts of her thighs. She got out of jail in May of 2016 and by August she was pregnant. She is on prescription drugs for bi-polar and she drinks and smokes weed every time she gets her hands on it. She lives with a boy that is 23 years old and he is just as messed up as she is. She will not leave him because the drugs flow free. They have my 1st grand-daughter and she is a beautiful good baby. I am amazed but she is a pretty good mother. She has stolen from me in the past, money, jewelry and other items that she could pawn. She was doing better not stealing from me until this morning when I figured out that she is using my debit card to buy stuff from I-tunes. She got on my cell phone and changed my icloud account so that she can buy stuff for the baby. It is not a lot of money but i am so tired of her taking my stuff without asking. I have been an enabler to her for over the past year and over the past few weeks I have worked really hard to set boundaries and stop enabling her. Then today I find these charges. I called Apple and they issued a refund to me but I am so good to her. She swears that she did not do it but it has to be her. I try not to give her money or buy her anything like cigarettes. Just yesterday I went and bought her baby a bunch of clothes. I am so tired of being used and not appreciated. I don't want to eliminate her out of my life because I love the baby so much but I don't know what to do.