my son is 24 .. started having issues at 14... he was always very sensitive even as a toddler. He had a few good years since rhen. Worked part time for about a year and a half... he always had trouble making friends....from what I observe ... its due somewhat to him not trusting as he is very funny and entertaining the few times he has been himself. I am disabled due to arthritis , my husband has always been weak and not much help, he is my sons father. My son only leaves house if he goes with me because he is bored, he either refuses to talk to me or calles me names. He refuses to talk to or even text relatives to thank them if they say give him birthday money. He refuses to work ... sits in his room or outside til wee hours of the morning. Sometimes drinks but only to cope. He was in trouble with the law in the past, for minor things. I know now that he will never have a normal Life without help but he has refused it for years. It rips my heart out seeing him Mope around, wearing the same clothes every day, head down, getting more and more in his shell. I feel so drained due to my arthritis and the many years of trying to help him. My husband and I do argue as he is very weak and it causes great resentment. He has always been a cold person which im sure has not helped my over sensitive son. I try to think now that it is between God and my son, I tell him We are there for him, want him ti be happy, but I have tried to do things for me so I dont fall into a depression because of him. I was brought up in a dysfunctional home but fought to have a normal Life and reached out when needec help. I just feel guilty and sometimes just need a break.... it is so hard to day in day out because i cant work ... i try to stay busy...as the constant reminder and seeing my son mooe around is bringing me down. When people come over which is rare, he refuses to come out if his room or leaves. People have taken to not wanting to come over as they dont want to get him nervous as they know it affects me.... i am at a loss and tell him if he does not seek help ..there is not much I can do ... he needs to oull himself up and fight.