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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 713825" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Welcome</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry for your despair.</p><p></p><p>Does your son use drugs also or just some alcohol?</p><p></p><p>He sounds depressed to me; however my son acted like this at times when he was in between binges. I think he was depressed also.</p><p></p><p>I know how hard it is to watch someone you love live this way. I have done it and it sucks the life right out of you.</p><p></p><p>It is very hard to make an adult do something they don't want to do. I don't know if you can sit around and wait for things to change because they probably won't.</p><p></p><p>What you will probably have to do, and I'm thinking others here will agree, is start making some rules. IF he is going to live in your home he MUST go go therapy and MUST find a job within a certain amount of time. </p><p></p><p>I know you probably do not want to give him an ultimatum and/or it would be very difficult for you but I do not see anything changing if you do not do this.</p><p></p><p>You want him to go out, have friends, work, be happy, laugh, smile, enjoy life, maybe meet a nice girl. That's all any of us want for our adult children.</p><p></p><p>Do you have any support for you? Is it possible you can see a therapist to help you maneuver through this difficult time? I would highly recommend that. Helping to set some healthy boundaries for you would help your son also.</p><p></p><p>He is an adult now and not your little boy anymore. You will not be around forever to take care of him. He has to learn how to take care of himself.</p><p></p><p>I know the helpless feeling of it all.</p><p></p><p>You will find a lot of compassion and knowledge on this forum so you came to the right place.</p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/notalone.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":notalone:" title="notalone :notalone:" data-shortname=":notalone:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 713825, member: 15032"] Welcome I am so sorry for your despair. Does your son use drugs also or just some alcohol? He sounds depressed to me; however my son acted like this at times when he was in between binges. I think he was depressed also. I know how hard it is to watch someone you love live this way. I have done it and it sucks the life right out of you. It is very hard to make an adult do something they don't want to do. I don't know if you can sit around and wait for things to change because they probably won't. What you will probably have to do, and I'm thinking others here will agree, is start making some rules. IF he is going to live in your home he MUST go go therapy and MUST find a job within a certain amount of time. I know you probably do not want to give him an ultimatum and/or it would be very difficult for you but I do not see anything changing if you do not do this. You want him to go out, have friends, work, be happy, laugh, smile, enjoy life, maybe meet a nice girl. That's all any of us want for our adult children. Do you have any support for you? Is it possible you can see a therapist to help you maneuver through this difficult time? I would highly recommend that. Helping to set some healthy boundaries for you would help your son also. He is an adult now and not your little boy anymore. You will not be around forever to take care of him. He has to learn how to take care of himself. I know the helpless feeling of it all. You will find a lot of compassion and knowledge on this forum so you came to the right place. :notalone: [/QUOTE]
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