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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 690288" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Nomad,</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>try not to think too much about the intent behind your friends' comments. They probably just have poor impulse control, and like so many of us, cannot resist being the deliverer of new information. It hurt you. Now you know. You can choose to not do the same thing to others...you cannot change what other people choose to do or say. That is why I am quiet now....but I have to say it certainly does not stop people from telling me things about my kids that I would rather not know!!!</p><p></p><p>On a different but related note...I have also been learning to keep my mouth shut about negative thoughts, fears, or bad news that is not mine to deliver. For example "you got a letter from a creditor today." Well, gee, they are going to find that out soon enough, why do I need to stick my face in that frame? They will forever associate me with that bad moment which is not of my making and not mine to resolve...and why do I have to be Ms busibody know it all?</p><p>A different example "well, we know she never follows through on promises, so don't count on it this time." I mean...do we know that? maybe she will follow through this time! My information on this is no better than anyone elses. We all have the same info. I am not a player in this game. I don't have to put my negative, baseless, two cents in.</p><p></p><p>I would say these changes have made me calmer and happier, and more, have significantly improved the quality of time I have with those I love, without in any way adding falseness or artificiality to our relationships. </p><p></p><p>Don't spread bad <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /> for no good purpose. Don't spread bad <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /> that is some one else's to spread. Mottos for the day!</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 690288, member: 17269"] Nomad, try not to think too much about the intent behind your friends' comments. They probably just have poor impulse control, and like so many of us, cannot resist being the deliverer of new information. It hurt you. Now you know. You can choose to not do the same thing to others...you cannot change what other people choose to do or say. That is why I am quiet now....but I have to say it certainly does not stop people from telling me things about my kids that I would rather not know!!! On a different but related note...I have also been learning to keep my mouth shut about negative thoughts, fears, or bad news that is not mine to deliver. For example "you got a letter from a creditor today." Well, gee, they are going to find that out soon enough, why do I need to stick my face in that frame? They will forever associate me with that bad moment which is not of my making and not mine to resolve...and why do I have to be Ms busibody know it all? A different example "well, we know she never follows through on promises, so don't count on it this time." I mean...do we know that? maybe she will follow through this time! My information on this is no better than anyone elses. We all have the same info. I am not a player in this game. I don't have to put my negative, baseless, two cents in. I would say these changes have made me calmer and happier, and more, have significantly improved the quality of time I have with those I love, without in any way adding falseness or artificiality to our relationships. Don't spread bad :censored2: for no good purpose. Don't spread bad :censored2: that is some one else's to spread. Mottos for the day! Echo [/QUOTE]
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