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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 637340" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Once we get over the shock of the things the difficult child does and stop worrying about his safety, there is the deep, deep shame as we allow ourselves to realize the nastiness of what the difficult child is doing. </p><p></p><p>They invariably take it public.</p><p></p><p>They invariably blame the way they were raised. They focus on our vulnerabilities because hurting us awakens guilt and gets them what they want. </p><p></p><p>As surely as the mother of the doctor or research scientist never stops finding some way to work that into conversation because it reflects well on her, we parents of difficult children are sickened a thousand times a day when we think of what our difficult child kids are up to. That is probably what is behind the crying, I think. It's like we split a part of ourselves off to carry the sadness, the loneliness and pain of it, so we can function in the world, so we go to work, and so on.</p><p></p><p>But every so often that little cut off part breaks through.</p><p></p><p>MWM is exactly right. Hug your dog, love yourself and your family and the sunshine. Begin a gratitude journal. Decide you are strong enough.</p><p></p><p>That is what I am deciding, this morning.</p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry this is happening. </p><p></p><p>You need to be strong, now.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 637340, member: 17461"] Once we get over the shock of the things the difficult child does and stop worrying about his safety, there is the deep, deep shame as we allow ourselves to realize the nastiness of what the difficult child is doing. They invariably take it public. They invariably blame the way they were raised. They focus on our vulnerabilities because hurting us awakens guilt and gets them what they want. As surely as the mother of the doctor or research scientist never stops finding some way to work that into conversation because it reflects well on her, we parents of difficult children are sickened a thousand times a day when we think of what our difficult child kids are up to. That is probably what is behind the crying, I think. It's like we split a part of ourselves off to carry the sadness, the loneliness and pain of it, so we can function in the world, so we go to work, and so on. But every so often that little cut off part breaks through. MWM is exactly right. Hug your dog, love yourself and your family and the sunshine. Begin a gratitude journal. Decide you are strong enough. That is what I am deciding, this morning. I'm so sorry this is happening. You need to be strong, now. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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