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Today is difficult child's 17th birthday. I saw him last week and offered to take him out for dinner on Sunday (yesterday) for his birthday (with his Dad and sister as well). He said he wasn't working but he might have plans and he'd get back to me. Of course he never did and then when I texted him yesterday he ignored me. I called him this morning and left a message and texted him "Happy birthday." No response.
My mom spoke to him this afternoon to wish him a happy birthday. He said he hasn't been able to text me back because it's very hard for him to text and walk at the same time. Really? Whatever. His dad texted him and he responded to his dad.
He is just 3 weeks in to a new semester at school and has already skipped half of his classes. Guess this semester is going the same way the last one did - nowhere. But those are his choices to make.
I'm really angry about him ignoring me like this and treating me the way he does. He was rude to my mom today too. I saw him about 2 weeks ago and he was quite pleasant - told me I was a pretty good mom, blah, blah. Then last week he mentions that he needs $475 for Arts Camp. He didn't outright ask me for it but I knew he wanted me to give him the money - maybe as a birthday present. He also lied to me about blowing the money we gave him in November for rent. He has burned through all but $300 of the money and that'll likely be gone in the next few weeks.
Anyway, I told him that it is difficult starting out on your own and that sometimes you can't always afford to do the things you want to do. I wasn't about to give him any money. I told him I'd buy him a new pair of jeans for his birthday. I think he played me by saying those nice things to me in order to butter me up for the money. Makes me incredibly angry.
The last few weeks I've been very sad. I think his birthday approaching was part of it. It's been very difficult letting go and realizing how much is out of my control.
The stress is literally making me sick. I'm having panic attacks in my sleep and sometimes during the day, heart palpitations, scares the heck out of me. At least I think they are panic attacks. I am going to the doctor tomorrow to see about running some tests to rule out heart problems just to be safe. I'm also going through other health stuff and i don't think he cares at all what effect this has on me or anyone else. Up until today I've been very say - today I'm just downright angry at the way he treats me - like I'm disposable unless he wants something. Ugh! (Sorry for rambling)
My mom spoke to him this afternoon to wish him a happy birthday. He said he hasn't been able to text me back because it's very hard for him to text and walk at the same time. Really? Whatever. His dad texted him and he responded to his dad.
He is just 3 weeks in to a new semester at school and has already skipped half of his classes. Guess this semester is going the same way the last one did - nowhere. But those are his choices to make.
I'm really angry about him ignoring me like this and treating me the way he does. He was rude to my mom today too. I saw him about 2 weeks ago and he was quite pleasant - told me I was a pretty good mom, blah, blah. Then last week he mentions that he needs $475 for Arts Camp. He didn't outright ask me for it but I knew he wanted me to give him the money - maybe as a birthday present. He also lied to me about blowing the money we gave him in November for rent. He has burned through all but $300 of the money and that'll likely be gone in the next few weeks.
Anyway, I told him that it is difficult starting out on your own and that sometimes you can't always afford to do the things you want to do. I wasn't about to give him any money. I told him I'd buy him a new pair of jeans for his birthday. I think he played me by saying those nice things to me in order to butter me up for the money. Makes me incredibly angry.
The last few weeks I've been very sad. I think his birthday approaching was part of it. It's been very difficult letting go and realizing how much is out of my control.
The stress is literally making me sick. I'm having panic attacks in my sleep and sometimes during the day, heart palpitations, scares the heck out of me. At least I think they are panic attacks. I am going to the doctor tomorrow to see about running some tests to rule out heart problems just to be safe. I'm also going through other health stuff and i don't think he cares at all what effect this has on me or anyone else. Up until today I've been very say - today I'm just downright angry at the way he treats me - like I'm disposable unless he wants something. Ugh! (Sorry for rambling)