If you could all rattle beads, chicken bones, etc. I will be leaving in a few hours for this meeting with the Court Solicitors to discuss options for difficult child. Of course when I talked to her yesterday she said again that if she is forced to go, she will rebel and it won't work. And she says this after 37 days of sobriety. She is very convincing that she never wants to touch it again. She told me that what she has done to her baby haunts her daily. Gosh, I hope so. She certainly does seem to be thinking about that little boy a lot more and she seems very clear on everything she needs to do when she gets out. Her boyfriend warns that she has poor coping skills and that if she were forced, and failed, the regret and pain of failure could send her into a catastrophic relapse. But, if I miss this opportunity to get her help and she goes back to using, I will never forgive myself. Gosh I wish I had all the answers...I want her to get help and I don't want to set her up to fail. And it is SO hard. I know this is her baby,not mine,and yet I am so protective of him. How do you make that transition from mother to grandmother??? I really don't want to overstep my boundaries and chase them off forever. I want my grandson in my life. Anyone have last minute advice before I go talk to the court?